really bad experience (90)

i would like to share my bad experience today with you all that I had today. I know i will get a million (i told you so's) but other constuctive comments would be good.

I arranged a session with a beautiful polish domme off collar me who i had contact with before christmas, she shared the idea of wanting to do a heavy no safeword session and after lengthy chats i was working in london so decided to visit her. She is not a pro domme but does it occasionally alongside her job.

Anyway i arrived at the premises half an hour late due to me getting lost and she met me outside as agreed and dragged me into the premises. I started to underdress before she indiscriminately starting whacking me with a heavy whip on all area of my body. I quickly got undressed and she carried on, i was a little worried at this stage as she tried to get me to lay on the whipping bench, i said could we pause it while we had a 2 minute chat,she refused, i was still up for the session but thought my whole body would be covered in blood once the 3 hours was up if i didnt speak to her as i had specifically asked for no marks on anywhere visable.

She carried on whipping me as I tried to block myself my wrists were getting very swolen and i was starting to feel faint and dizzy. I knew if she got me onto the whipping bench i could end up in very serious trouble so quickly ran to one of the adjoining dungeon rooms, i shouted for the dungeon keeper as i knew he was on the premises but there was no sign. This went on for around 5 minutes (seemed like hours )and i already had cuts all over my body. At one stage i made a grab for the whip and she said she would get the dungeon keeper to put me to the floor if i tried it again.

I said to her i would pay the 300 and leave but she refused, i started to quickly get dressed ,no time for pants as i put my trousers on while the whipping got more ferocious, i eventually got my shirt on , grabbed my shoes socks and pants and did a runner. She had asked if she could film it so i think the reason she was soo keen to carry on after i had paid was i presume she had an order for the film.

I was in a daze when i left the dungeon and was sick a couple of minutes after. I said to myself i would leave the scene behind but already i want to get back into it the sooner the better but my confidence is now very low. Ive done extreme judicial sessions before but i genuiningly feared for my safety if she got me restrained.

I was wondering how you think i should get back into the scene , my try and do a light tie and teese /foot worship session with an experience domme this week to get my confidence back up.

Thanks for reading and please let me know if you know anyone a couple of hours from sheffield who would be suitable.

thanks.

"If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness
http://www.clips4sale.com/studio/26308 http://ladyannadominatrix.c4slive.com/ http://www.professionaldomination.co.uk

Edited 18 Jan 10, 7:16 PM by Lady_Anna_Bradford

I don't personally know of any Mistresses in Sheffield area but we can't tell you often enough to do your damn homework - this has quite harshly taught you an expensive lesson.

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If this really happened to you today then I think you should be going to the police, not coming here asking about how to get back into the scene.

I strongly suspect that this didn't really happen today though, it seems a little OTT.

A no safeword scene with a whip, yet "No marks pwease mistwess!".

Awaw an bile yer heed ye numpty.

Its not just you at all... and it does always seem to be those that state they want extreme play with no limits that then go on to say but no marks.. errr yeah what ever!

To the OP, its unfortunate that you got to experience exactly what it was you were seeking and that you didnt like it. It's was a shame that it wasnt at the hands of an experienced S&M practitioner. You have learned a lesson the hard way, but apparently lessons learned that way are best learnt.... I guess you are just lucky you didnt sustain any serious lasting damage.

~* Raku wa ku no tané; ku wa raku no tané. *~

I have no doubt that Polish 'pro dommes' exist on Collarme, but what really amazes me is that he paid £300 to one!

Perhaps we really do need to write a 'Visiting Pro Dommes for Dummies'?

"If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness
http://www.clips4sale.com/studio/26308 http://ladyannadominatrix.c4slive.com/ http://www.professionaldomination.co.uk

This

I am quite surprised that with your scene experience and (as far as I can tell) 10 years of seeing PDs that you ended up in this situation

I am sure that you must have had good sessions during that time (otherwise why go back) and maybe it's worth looking at how you found those PDs to help you next time you visit

You seem to like the pain side of BDSM so I am not sure whether going for a tie and tease is the right thing for you to do

I'd leave it for a little while, let the scars heal and then do some real research into finding a PD who wil fit in with you and your requirements (and I don''t mean just looking/asking on IC/collarme/whatever). Go onto a PD forum (or forums) - ask on there - look at reviews and also look for dommes who post there. Then having done a bit of legwork contact one or two ladies who seem to be in the right area (physical and mental) and see how you get on with them

As I say call on your experience too

Well on the positive side of things, at least delphian has the answer to why it is best to avoid them and to go for the already established professional Mistress that uses informed consent

~* Raku wa ku no tané; ku wa raku no tané. *~

Regarding the polish domme ,she was very nice and think will be a very good mistress with a little more experience, shes very attractive and known to the london dungeon hire. I even offered to re do a session of lighter domination to gain try etc again .

as for the OP, its spilled milk now just forget about it and move on as best you can. if she has shown that little regard for your health and well being though its best not to play with her again however good looking she is.

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