Posted by kaoskitten on Sun 17 Jan 10, 5:36 PM to the_girly_couch's blog.
i think i already know the answer to this but what happens when your brought into something that has absolutely nothing to do with you. your told its over many months ago, blogs support this and then week by week more information trickles out till you know its not as black and white as some are saying. Do you Stand and fight, walk away or align yourself to a particular party come hell or high water or watch the destruction of another sub seeing what you can as an 'outsider' but they can't/won't.
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| 17 Jan 10, 6:39 PM little_temptress 4 yrs |
Oh difficult one although I am not sure I fully understand the situation so I might be talking a load of rubbish - nothing new there I know <grins>. I suppose the right thing would be to take a big step backwards and give the people concerned some space and until the situation is clear. Saying that sometimes it is not easy to just walk away is it? Tempyxxx girls come and start chatting @the_girly_couch | |
| 18 Jan 10, 1:15 AM kaoskitten 7 yrs |
[/quote] Oh difficult one although I am not sure I fully understand the situation so I might be talking a load of rubbish - nothing new there I know <grins>. I suppose the right thing would be to take a big step backwards and give the people concerned some space and until the situation is clear. Saying that sometimes it is not easy to just walk away is it? Tempyxxx [/quote]
your not talking rubbish, its the answer i kind of knew but a slight lack of confidence in my judgments recently i just wanted to check what others thought, and no its not easy to walk away but i think its the lesser of the too evils - thanks
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| 18 Jan 10, 8:13 PM little_temptress 4 yrs |
maybe it is more about taking a step back than walking away  girls come and start chatting @the_girly_couch | |
| 25 Jan 10, 2:17 PM River_Deep UK, 6 yrs |
You can only live by your own code and not the code of others. What you might deem as a small thing others may not, and vice versa. I know from my experience I have walked away and not got involved. It ended in tears for the sub. I have also been on the other end where I could have been saved on hell of a lot of pain if others had got involved. Do what you think is right and for the right reason in your own mind RD xx
It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it | |
| 27 Jan 10, 10:47 AM Iphis_me UK(E), 4 yrs   |
It's a difficult one isn't it? Being vocal about an ex can lead to one being perceived as the "woman scorned" and also I'd be the first to admit I'm not the most objective person about someone who I feel has treated me badly. It's always a judgement call, I'd say whatever you do tread carefully and don't lay yourself open to further accusations. Most people do realise that there are always at least 2 sides to every story so the most you can do is to say "in my opinion" or "in my experience" but be clear that there may be more to the situation. "The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates |
