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| Sat 16 Jan 10, 1:21 PM DaniJo UK(HR), 5 yrs   |
Tonight i'm going to a (relatively) vanilla fancy-dress party. Now, despite my proclivities, i've never been a great fan of these events. In their infinite wisdom, the art-student types whose party it is have decided that everyone going to this party should appear as someone of the opposite gender. Rather than leaping at this opportunity to dress up, i'm feeling quite nervous about it. A fair few of my friends (notably the party hosts) know that I crossdress, and another friend who is going along also shares such tendencies. Why then, am I more nervous than the times i've been out to fetish clubs and played with people as my alter ego? Just thought i'd throw it out, and see if anyone has had similar experiences. Dani. | |
| 16 Jan 10, 1:29 PM Incandescence UK, 3 yrs |
I think it's probably because it's creating some crossover between your 'vanilla' and kinky selves. That, I would imagine, could be quite disconcerting. The fact that you know you crossdress for other purposed than fancy dress will be at the back of your mind and you'll probably be thinking that others will realise you are with it and put 2 and 2 together. And there's an element of doing what you normally do behind closed in front of other people who don't have the same leanings as you do. It's bound ot make you a bit nervous. I'd say, don't worry about other people and enjoy the chance to be your 'other' self in non-kinky company
Hope you have a good party Lima In order to know virtue, we must first aquaint ourselves with vice - Marquis De Sade | |
| 16 Jan 10, 2:00 PM Mistress_Susannah UK(SE), 7 yrs £ |
It's a different environment, less sexually charged for one, so of course it will make you slightly nervous. I'd relax and enjoy the differences, rather than let them make you uncomfortable. Have fun! | |
| 16 Jan 10, 5:08 PM The_Perfect_Sadist UK(PO), 4 yrs |
Dani, What will be your "fancy dress" persona? Will it be your real feminine side - the side you like to dress as when you can be yourself? Or will it be a fancy dress persona - Frankenfurter, or Madonna or one of the other iconic roles that the other guys will go as, in their case for a laugh? If you camp it up, you'll be like everyone else. If you go as your real cross-dressing self, you'll be revealing yourself, even outing yourself to those who don't know you intimately. Maybe that's the cause of your nervousness? It could be quite a big decision for you. There is more than one way to skin a cat but there is only one try per cat |
