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| Top_Class |
on Sat 16 Jan 10, 9:33 AM to the Novices_R_Us group.
How can a novice create a forum for novices so that all novices may improve their enjoyment of IC and the Scene? Is it the blind leading the blind? It would be unless those of you with experience and skill and knowledge are prepared to drop by once in a while and open our eyes to the world we want to be part of.
Ultimately you'll protect the health of the community as more people will stay and grow inside it; more people will feel there's a process of informal inclusion.
For a novice, like me, all this will be new:
As it is, no one will know this group exists unless you mention it to your friends and contacts, unless I 'leaflet' the site's experienced and knowledgeable members and unless any of you who have novices knocking on your doors redirect them to this forum.
I may be aiming high and starting low but I'm only imagining that Dom's, Top's, sub's and bottom's must keep getting asked the same old same old all the time. And if you're having a really, really good day you might drop a few nuggets of golden wisdom into a memo-reply but most usually you won't bother.
So why not try this instead, pass the link of this group, which is:
to the hopeful enquirer. You'll save yourself a lot of work, you'll have made a positive but definitive response and you'll put the novice exactly where they need to be.
Ultimately you'll be protecting the health of the community as more people will stay and grow inside it; more people will feel there's a process of informal inclusion and more people will start recommending IC as the place to be.
All that benefit for simply dropping a link into a memo-reply.
Edited Sun 17 Jan 10, 8:14 AM by Top_Class
| 18 Jan 10, 11:57 AM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
You mentioned SSC (Safe, Sane and Consensual), but not RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), another (and equally valid) way of defining behaviours inside a D/s relationship (and the guiding light for my girl and me). May I recommend: http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/dictionary/RACK... Best to all (and good luck with the group).
Patience is bitter - but its fruit is sweet. | ||
| 18 Jan 10, 9:24 PM MasterOfMe UK(WD), 6 yrs |
One of the best ways to get things started might be to think of questions that new members often want to ask (or that you want to ask!) and post the question to try and get some good answers. | ||
| 19 Jan 10, 6:49 PM LadyPandoraCP UK(M), 6 yrs £ |
Firstly, well done for starting the group. Secondly, as MOM says, ask some questions and you will get answers
You're not weird, you're just unique ... Clara, aged 9! | ||
| 20 Jan 10, 3:01 AM socair UK, 6 yrs |
While I can understand the desire to have a place for new members to go, there is nothing to beat being exposed to as many views and personal experiences as possible. So remember to look at the main boards too – IC is a friendly site on the whole  In the spirit of the group here are a few links which might be of use to submissive women especially: http://www.leathernroses.com/submission/wisemant... http://www.steel-door.com/need_for_speed.htm http://www.the-iron-gate.com/essays/tag/8/page/1 http://gloriabrame.com/domidea/playsafe.htm
To any new submissive women I can't stress enough the importance of making contact with other submissive women. It may be online – web boards, groups, etc. Or through meeting places such as munches. Maybe it will be here. But other submissives will be your best support system and with them you can discuss your thoughts without pressure. Oh and they won't offer to “train” or “mentor” you as a sneaky ploy to get some play either
Welcome to anybody new "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society". | ||
| 28 Jan 10, 10:33 AM pinwheel_painslut 2 yrs |
Thankies for these links, they are very useful and appreciate the advice! Xx taking my first wobbly steps into the much unexplored world of BDSM with PD Xx | ||
| 30 Jan 10, 12:47 AM peppermint3105 UK(BA), 2 yrs |
I am so happy wiv the blind leading the blind thread. Totally new to the whole IC thing, and happy to be led and advised | ||
| 11 Feb 10, 9:06 AM solution_acheived 2 yrs |
I don't think its the bnd leading the blind, otherwise people like me wouldn't be reading nor replying, but as long as you remember the simple rules you can ask jUst about anything and some one will actually answer.... and yes I'm happy to reply to those that ask if I can help I will...even if shyness means the questions in memo! respect to you all Cyan Happiness lies neither in vice nor in virtue; but in the manner we appreciate the one and the other, and the choice we make pursuant to our individual organization. | ||
| 11 Feb 10, 11:56 AM Admin UK, 14 yrs |
You have a really interesting profile, which for reference says:
Remember: it's only a website | ||
| 11 Feb 10, 2:26 PM solution_acheived 2 yrs |
Thankyou Admin, one tries to be honest open and to the point however offline events and real life relationships sometimes do hit stormy waters and those to whom my ship ref was addressed know well the reasons for the words.... if I can be of further assistance don't hesitate to memo I'm only to happey to clarify Cyan Happiness lies neither in vice nor in virtue; but in the manner we appreciate the one and the other, and the choice we make pursuant to our individual organization. | ||
| 11 Feb 10, 2:37 PM solution_acheived 2 yrs |
spelling nazi? lol to be blunt I'm writting this on a palm top, not the easiest of tools to type with! once back on the home pc I'll adjust spelling from this damned predictive txt, and using a keyboard which should I'm hoping resolve this however if anyone wishes to ask feel free to memo me...Cyan Happiness lies neither in vice nor in virtue; but in the manner we appreciate the one and the other, and the choice we make pursuant to our individual organization. Edited 11 Feb 10, 2:38 PM by solution_acheived |
