Posted by little_temptress on Tue 12 Jan 10, 9:06 PM to the_girly_couch's blog.
RD post and replies made me think about the fact I sometimes fight my submissive feelings.
See, I actually really crave being in control in my life, especially at work so I think I do still try to take control in a D/s relationship.
I think I need someone very strong who doesn't let me get away with much.
Does anyone else have the same thoughts or feelings?
Tempy
| 13 Jan 10, 7:31 PM WideEyedMinx UK(N), 2 yrs   |
Hi Little Temptress It must be quite a common thought of strong submissives, how do we give up all control? As we have lives and jobs and a brain! I was once approached a master who wanted to take control of my whole life, including my friends and social life, whether i could see my family, whether i would be allowed to apply for a job or not. i passed on his "kind" offer, but does that make me a sub who wants too much control? Or was it that i just want balance within my subness ? I agree it sounds as if we both need someone who will have great strength as a dominant, but also someone with the ability to work out our buttons, someone who can push them in order for us to want to give up more control to them .. it's impossible to look into the crystal ball and work out how much you'll give until you actually know who you're giving it to.. xx
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| 15 Jan 10, 6:25 PM little_temptress 4 yrs |
Thanks for the reply. Actually I think the fact that I am an independent type of girl, actually appeals to my new Master. I like the fact that he is happy for me to make my own decisions in my day to day life and doesn't mind me going to D/s social events. He does say though that when I am with him then he has control. As I am married this approach works for me. I just need to see if the reality works for this D/s relationship.... girls come and start chatting @the_girly_couch | |
| 17 Jan 10, 8:01 PM GeeeGeee UK, 5 yrs |
Bingo. When D and I started to get serious (rather than the playful bantering*) I asked him for one thing - never back down. I hasten to add this didn't cover beating my head in if he suddenly decided grass was purple, and therefore I had to immediately agree. I wanted a Dom and a man willing to stand by his convictions and not let me wheedle my way out of things. Unfortunately, this has the disadvantage of not being able wheedle out of things. *Being rude and sarcastic to each other. |
