Have you been contacted (13)

Sooooo let me get this right......

You posted on the pro board because a mate of yours has a wife that sent an email to a Pro Domme explaining that she was not into BDSM but her husband was, and she got a reply that was rude and not professional.

Both you and he were very pissed off about it because this is what she said had happened. You both were so pissed off infact that neither of you bothered to find out who this supposed pro was, instead the original poster offered to ask questions about something that may not of occured in the first place on the pro board?

The only reason I asked you to memo with the name of the person was because I knew this would end up as it has.....no facts, no nothing, just the op now saying he will leave it at that.

You haven't elaborated on the context of the "wife" contacting the PD, but if it were in an accusatory tone along the lines of "why did he come to you, just because I'm not into it, leave him alone you bitch" type of thing such a reply might be understandable.

If on the other hand the PD had reason to believe that the enquiry wasn't genuine and the sender was actually a man (just curious, what would be your friend's attitude to you asking his wife about the email "she" sent?) playing games to deceive the PD perhaps such a reply to the "wife" would also be understandable.

Without knowing the facts and context we can't really give a definitive point of view, nor should you be miffed on your friend's behalf if he isn't forthcoming with the full facts to you.

Personally if a 'nilla lady I knew complained to me that her husband was looking elsewhere to fulfil his kinky desires I think my obviously biased advice to her would be to get kinky quickly if she really wanted to keep him. If she wouldn't, then lost him and asked why, my reply, albeit more tactfully, might be along the same lines..

Edited to add "trussed_me's first rule of marriage guidance". If you're kinky, know you are and know you can't live without it, DON'T marry someone who patently will never have an interest in it. If you do, trust, inadequacy and incompatibility issues will inevitably cause friction at some point within your relationship.

Edited 17 Feb 10, 12:43 AM by Trussedworthy

Yoda is that you?