Have you been contacted (13)

For the apparent reply, to be cos your boring vanilla and a prude, sorry just paraphrasing what was said to me by my friend in N. Wales, so I said I would investigate.

Both myself and my friend are understandable pissed off, cos we are trying to say BDSM is about tolerance, this reply IF it occurred was rude, inconsiderate and unprofessional- do you agree

Swindonbdsmer (Matt)

"If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness
http://www.clips4sale.com/studio/26308 http://ladyannadominatrix.c4slive.com/ http://www.professionaldomination.co.uk

Have you seen the reply yourself?

"If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness
http://www.clips4sale.com/studio/26308 http://ladyannadominatrix.c4slive.com/ http://www.professionaldomination.co.uk

So you want our opinion on a reply you haven't seen?

"If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness
http://www.clips4sale.com/studio/26308 http://ladyannadominatrix.c4slive.com/ http://www.professionaldomination.co.uk

Can I just ensure that I understand your question. you are saying that a vanilla wife contacted a PD and that the wife said the PD responded to her saying the wife was a prude etc?

I would not expect a PD to respond in that way. If she did I would have like to see the original email that she responded to as it might shed some light.

I suspect that the email or contents of the email could be fiction or exagerated out of all proportion. Coming onto this forum being angry is suprising since you dont seem to have seen the email or know exactly what it said or who sent it.

I do agree however that if that email was sent out exactly in the way it is described it would be highly unproffesional and harmful.

No it wouldnt at all! What it would show is that the person emailed someone who is very insensitive... it its actually true. If someone is going to use that to base an opinion of all PD's and the scene generally then that is just stupid, and if they are that stupid i for one dont really give a toss what they think of the scene generally.

~* Raku wa ku no tané; ku wa raku no tané. *~

Swindonbdsmer (Matt)

So you thought paraphrasing the unseen email would be helpful in showing PDs in a good light? Why did the wife email a PD? Was she asking for professional tips? Was she complaing that they'd led her husband astray? This is a bit like the guy who got ripped off in an unspecified way in London .....

I think everyone should like everybody ..... Andy Warhol

In all my years as a pro, I have never sent a reply as you describe. Many of us get emails from from people that say they are female and they want their male partner dealt with, the same as we get phone calls from men who say the same about their female partners. Any good pro will want to speak on the phone to both halves before they accept an appointment. Even if I suspect that they are fantasists ( pretending to be female etc) my reply is always the same......please ring me. That sorts out the genuine from the others. If you want to memo me with the name of this so called pro,then I will find out what I can about her.

My instincts tell me she is either new or gets drunk a lot, but as with so many things the truth lies somewhere between both sides of a story.

Edited 4 Jan 10, 10:24 AM by Mistress_Sapphire_UK

Well spotted - it was probably his wife who made the phone call lol. ......... and possibly it was the con-artist who sent the offensive emailed reply?? Fiction is often stranger than fact!!