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| 31 Dec 09, 3:24 PM COLT23 UK(LN), 2 yrs  |
if your brother cares for you he won't say anything,
if you haven't already let on you could say someone gave you the flyer in town, i often have flyers people give me kicking around in the car which i have never read.. good luck anyway and happy new year... | ||
| 31 Dec 09, 8:04 PM fetboyslim 2 yrs |
lol! No. I could never tell my parents or brother. | ||
| 31 Dec 09, 8:20 PM cuffedboi UK(CF), 4 yrs |
Hi My advice is that you don't have to say anything, and what you are into is what you are into. family members are not likely to be involved, and they should keep out. You never know, there may be secrets and lies elsewhere in the family Attack is the best form of defence- assume others have secrets and rise above it. in fact if your brother is foolish to share it, then play the thing back on him (ie you seem to be very interested in the leaflet my friend left in the car -- a bit too interested--he'll soon shut up sime | ||
| 31 Dec 09, 8:36 PM xxxpumpkinxxx UK(CF), 2 yrs |
as someone that has a faer of that in my life it can be hard to know what to do but from a fellow sub i would try and speak to your brother and if he is really adminunt in spilling to every one try softing the blow at bit but i dont think your bro will the worst thing that happens to me is i get digs off my bf in front of my relatives which can get embarresen but if you try getting him to understand he should understand hope this helps kinkypumpkin | ||
| 31 Dec 09, 8:50 PM NewToo 5 yrs |
I thought about the OP some more and it occurs to me that I hide things that really make me happy from those closest to me, yet will happily share my inner thoughts and desires with total strangers or brief acquaintances.
Some friends were recently in my car and the lady found a studded leather belt of mine. It's a typical goth type belt, nothing too sinister you understand Strange the way people behave when close friends start to get beneath the facade, or is it just me being scared of the consequences? It takes a lot of money to look this cheap | ||
| 31 Dec 09, 9:29 PM Ariane 8 yrs |
I've always found that being reasonably open about alternative interests (I'm also very much into the occult) and treating it as perfectly normal works very well. My grown daughter is Goth, our local Goth crowd overlaps substantially with the SM crowd, and our friend groups also overlap. It would be silly to try to keep it secret. She's adult age, and although not interested herself, can joke about it with me. I think my mother would have found it quite amusing as well. After all, it was my aunt who first said that "Men should be kept in cages and let out for sex and support". | ||
| 31 Dec 09, 10:26 PM Jons_Amaranth UK(WS), 11 yrs  |
The most of the family know and imagining telling my mother gives me hours of entertaiment. The real friends know. I am fairly discreet at work only beacause I have a large but immature team and would probably end up throttling one of them in a non consenting manner for repeatedly mentioning it. Eleanor Roosevelt: The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience. | ||
| 31 Dec 09, 10:37 PM obeyance UK(B), 4 yrs |
Thirded this | ||
| 1 Jan 10, 5:54 PM Dreaming2 UK, 3 yrs |
I think mothers will know. Especialy if it's been with you since childhood. Enough clues to somes inclinations will have been left to tip them off. Maybe some observant Dads too  | ||
| 1 Jan 10, 6:24 PM erus_boy_g UK(SK), 4 yrs |
Only my mum knows from my family about what i do, and she accepts and even understands that this is what makes me happy. Heck my mum has even met my Mistress, that was a very strange meeting at a shopping centre lol. very happily Owned and Collared by Ms LacednLicked |
