Standing Orders? (68)

I find this most annoying as I have never smoked, and, following a chainsaw accident as a wee nipper I had both of my feet amputated.

Therefore I find wearing footwear of any kind most troublesome.

Advice please!

Edited 13 Jul 11, 10:32 AM by SirBstard

1. She was dieting, Weight Watchers. So every day she had to put down what she ate, tally up her points. When she visited she had to bring this diary with her and she would get a stroke with the dressage crop for each point over her daily allowance.

2. Before visiting she had to visit the waxing parlour. Before her waxing began she had to phone me and leave her phone nearby so I could listen in to her cries. She was a whimp!

After laying out toys l must assume present position until he is ready.

To always be accessible when we are D/s

To only look at Master when told to do so.

When not restrained never to close legs in his presence.

To speak only when spoken too.

guess these are our protocols and standing orders.

Oh and of course to always thank Master for his attention and administrations.

Don't make them a priority, when they only make you an option...

ETA: There are some things they just do coz they are good boys, like being trimmed, assuming positions, etc.

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Edited 13 Jul 11, 11:55 AM by Ama_Sidero

I must always say good morning and now must tell Sir my plans for the day and what I am wearing.

I am not allowed to wear knickers without permission.

On school nights, I have a bedtime of midnight and lights out at half past.

I now have to submit a daily spreadsheet of my spending as I am crap with money.

I am trying to lose weight so Sir has access to an online site where I record my eating for the day.

I am not allowed to cut my hair.

When I am with him, I am not permitted to wear trousers unless he has specified otherwise, always a dress or skirt. I have to be entirely accessible to him.

I am not allowed to cum in the 24 hours before we are together.

I must thank him for all orgasms when we are together and ask his permission to cum.

Those are the main ones I can think of at the moment

ETA: I must keep kitty bare too, how could I forget the joy of shaving/waxing/epilating, lol!

When I'm good, I'm very good......when I'm bad, I'm trouble

Edited 13 Jul 11, 12:04 PM by twilightsilence

Whenever she is domming she always carries a silk ladies handkerchief that I bought her to remind her of me.

It's become a bit of a tradition for us. She is a little subby in the home.

It was a nice handkerchief

Like @penwiggle, I'm not in a relationship now, so don't have any but things included in the past or discussed have included things like:

* Being sexualy available at all times for him (but like @Belasarius said, I expect my partner to use this power with empathy). And performing things he likes daily.

* Having to get prior agreement for going to the hairdresser and what the hairdresser will do (took some convincing that this was not merely vanity but pretty important to my self-confidence and professionally important too)

* Daily record of everything I ate and exercise done

* Eating heathily

* Bedtimes being set, and daily record of hours slept so corrections to bedtime can be made

* Weekly weigh in and body measurements (I actually still do that even though I am not with that person, because it has become completely ingrained)

* Discussing any health issues with him (had to do a detailed health briefing at the very beginning)

* Having to ask for permission to go to the toilet when we were in each other's company.

* Keeping a record of everything I spent, and taking out a cash sum at the beginning of the month to use for monthly expenses other than rent/etc, and if I ran out, had to ask for permission for more

* In public, being deferential and giving him the opportunity to exercise control in a very low key way (so, for example, if we went out for dinner, I might say "I quite like the look of these three dishes, what do you think?", to which he might tell me to pick whatever I wanted, or he might say "I think you should have that", and then that is what I would order)

* If/when he told me what he wanted me to wear, obviously wearing that. Going shopping for clothes with him and following his advice (=instructions) on what to buy or not to buy

* Telling him everything I was thinking and in particular any concerns I was having (including about work, etc, so not just concerns about our relationship)

* Asking for permission (learning to say "may I do xxx" instead of "can I...")

The funny thing is that most of this (i) would not be visible to an outsider or (ii) is ingrained in me now, and would probaly just seem like "cute" rituals and habits to most outsiders. But that kind of seems right to me, because for me D/s is about a 24/7 relationship, not about bedroom play/scenes, and therefore it needs to work seamlessly in the vanilla world too, and the D/s simply underpins/enhances the vanilla relationship.

There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me
I'm a little lamb who's lost in the wood, I know I could always be good, to one who'll watch over me (Ella Fitzgerald)

Edited 25 Jul 11, 7:51 PM by Shypeachybottom

To the world, You are one person. But to one person, you might be the world.

... have just had an offline comment about this, a friend teasing me that "being deferential" sounded like being a doormat... to which I say, absolutely not. For me, being deferential means being aware of and acknowledging his control and dominance. It doesn't mean I can't be cheeky (unless instructed otherwise), or that we can't have a good laugh or a lively discussion, although I wouldn't be cheeky to the point of being rude or disrespectful (that would be an issue!). What it does mean (for me) is that at any time, with a look or a nod or a touch or a word, he can exercise that control & dominance and know I will follow.

There's a somebody I'm longing to see, I hope that he turns out to be, someone to watch over me
I'm a little lamb who's lost in the wood, I know I could always be good, to one who'll watch over me (Ella Fitzgerald)