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| Mon 21 Dec 09, 2:48 PM boundarypusher UK(CH), 2 yrs   |
Can anyone beat poor spelling for a reason not too meet up? Now I appreciate the need for discretion, but had no idea the correct spelling of it was so important. Out of the blue I received a memo from a young lady. After exchanging a few memos we progressed to chatting and arranged a meeting for coffee. All going swimmingly! However during this chat my poor spelling of discretion was too much for her and she called off our meeting, stating she had asked for a Dom with intelligence. I consider myself quite a bright lad, (although with a weakness in the spelling department, which I even mention on my profile) so it came as quite a shock to be considered too stupid to meet for coffee. Just wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences? | |
| 21 Dec 09, 2:51 PM hollythedolly UK(NN), 2 yrs  |
yes i've been called illiterate on a web board due to my cack spelling | |
| 21 Dec 09, 2:53 PM hollythedolly UK(NN), 2 yrs |
who are you kidding?
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| 21 Dec 09, 2:53 PM ThePrincess UK(SW), 6 yrs |
Correct your discussion title and I will respond...  OK, sorry. Personally, spelling and grammar are really important to me, because words and how people use them are really important to me. So bad spelling is enough to put me off someone. That said, it's quite possible the young lady just lost interest and that was an excuse! TP x | |
| 21 Dec 09, 2:56 PM Mr_Worm UK(BN), 6 yrs     |
I was told that I was too handsome and that she had an ugly fetish ... bit rich given I met her on narcissists anonymous It happens so always best to keep the cyber chit chat to a reasonable limit and try to meet in r/l to see if it has legs
Edited 21 Dec 09, 2:57 PM by Mr_Worm | |
| 21 Dec 09, 2:57 PM mia  UK(M), 4 yrs      |
Well it's probably for the best. I don't find the reason so ridiculous. She may want someone who either knows how to spell well or someone who uses a dictionary to check words they are unsure of. It's no more unusual than wanting a short or tall person, a blonde or brunette person or a slim or chubby person. For some people, these things won't matter and for some they will be very important. That it is not that important to you but it is to her, shows that you were perhaps not such a great match afterall. Personally speaking, if the odd word here and there is spelt incorrectly, I'm not really bothered. However there are some things that I just find so off putting that I would be hard pressed to ignore. For example, if people write 'shouldn't of' instead of 'shouldn't have' or 'shouldn't've' then I can pretty much rule them out as potential long term sexy dance partners. x You don't always have to be on top. Better to be hated than love, love, loved for what you're not | |
| 21 Dec 09, 2:58 PM hollythedolly UK(NN), 2 yrs |
I just dont get this. What if the man is dyslexic it is called discrimination.
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| 21 Dec 09, 2:59 PM phoenixlove UK(NW), 4 yrs £ |
lol, any excuse..hahaha | |
| 21 Dec 09, 3:02 PM ConsciousnessJunkie UK(N), 5 yrs |
I have given this as a reason for not meeting someone for a date. Well actually I just politely declined but the guy in question kept asking and asking why, so I just told him. However it wasn't just the poor spelling, it was other things do But basically the poor spelling was just the most obvious outward display that the guy wasn't particually intelligent. We could have met, but I already realised that we had very little in common. I wanted to discuss art and science, he wanted to talk about the football results. It would never have worked. ETA: In this case it was the guy using words like "gud" and "cud" and "2" and "u". That just drives me totally barmy. Spelling something difficult is one thing, but the laziness of not writing out the word "to" just got to me. Edited 21 Dec 09, 3:03 PM by ConsciousnessJunkie | |
| 21 Dec 09, 3:03 PM fussyone 9 yrs |
Sniggers, you are kidding! Ahh well, there are plenty more fish in the sea and all that. | |
| 21 Dec 09, 3:04 PM mia UK(M), 4 yrs |
Everyone discriminates to a degree. Not in a racist, homophobic, etc. way, but in a way to find the person that we think would be the right match for us. If I were to meet a charming, sadistic man who was well educated, had good looks and had his own ice-cream factory, but he wore a tracksuit for occassions other than for training or when feeling under the weather, I would be very unlikely to want to let him inside of my knickers. I don't like that style of clothing and it is important to me that the person I am with is dressed in a way I find attractive, at least most of the time. For some people, they would not like to date someone who was under or over a certain weight, or who voted for a certain political party. All of this is discriminatory, but it is necessary to enable you to find someone that ticks the boxes that are important to you. x You don't always have to be on top. Better to be hated than love, love, loved for what you're not |
