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| 22 Dec 09, 1:34 AM cohen_afterward UK, 3 yrs  |
Teenage angst has paid off well... ...now I'm bored and old. | |
| 22 Dec 09, 1:41 AM TTEKkk UK(N), 2 yrs  |
sorry have not read the whole thread as I to am tired as fucking flight has been canceled etc etc so apologies if this has been said but as some one who has not felt depressed myself but has been good friends with, and in a relationship with people who do find it hard sometimes, the best thing to do is talk about it; either with a councilor or friend or both, you may find your anxieties once expressed can be massively easier to over come. I say this because I have been the person that some of the people in my life have confided in. I know its hard to say to some one "well, you know how I'm happy and fun and stuff - well I feel the opposite" but you may find people are much more understanding then you think they're going to be. I feel 1000 times closer to the people who have talked to me about their difficulties and I have 1000 times more respect for them for addressing the issue I'm sure you can do this, well in fact you've already started (and I bet that wasn't as hard as you thought??)
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| 22 Dec 09, 3:03 AM Thought_Policeman UK(SO), 2 yrs |
So utterly predictable from you. Edited 22 Dec 09, 3:04 AM by Thought_Policeman | |
| 22 Dec 09, 11:20 AM fussyone 9 yrs |
I used to feel like this. I worked hard to change things in my life: had years of therapy which works to a point. I have nearly finished my second degree and I work now. It is in the main; the real world working, spending time with friends who understand me which worked over time. I just don't feel it any more. I don't feel sad, distressed, lonely, empty any more. I have moments which may last a day (usually when i'm tired). Maybe one day a month but not to the levels which I did. I wanted to kill myself for years and years. I'm so happy now with myself, my life and everything in it. I'm not sure what changed really, it was a gradual change I suppose. I guess I don't worry as much about people who don't matter. I value what I have and where I am right now. I appreciate it more because of all the shite I have been through. I used to carry around an intense anger, all the time. An anxiety which was constantly there - the anger has gone. I don't know how (I had it all my life), it just went away. It truely is a blessing not having that constant horrific anger all the time.
All I can say to you really is that one day if you keep doing the things you need to do, no matter what. You will be ok, you will just wake up and realise that you haven't felt bad for a while I had to add this also: It is not a relationship that will make you feel better. It is not finding that 'one'. That is just something I think we pin our sadness on. Certainly, now I feel a lot better, you no longer see finding the one as important. Hey, it would be great to have a true romance but, I don't need that for my self esteem. It is about you, how you feel inside about yourself, developing you. Anything you pin your sadness on is just a distractor. Anyway, big warm hugs xxxx Edited 22 Dec 09, 11:26 AM by fussyone | |
| 23 Dec 09, 8:27 PM Chamele0n UK(BH), 4 yrs |
Very well said. If it's to do with a rut in your career/job, then it's never too late to change - I'm considering going to Uni next Sept because I fancy a career change, and I'm approaching 40 (and have a mortgage to pay)!
Counselling is a very positive thing to do, as is seeing a Doctor. And also, if you have any close friends you can confide in, then speak up. Often getting things off your chest/letting off steam to a good friend with a good pair of ears, can be gold. Don't suffer in silence whatever you do, it's not healthy to bottle things up. In fact, speaking up on IC is a positive step Good luck and I hope things are better for you very soon. C
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| 23 Dec 09, 8:31 PM epona74 UK(SL), 7 yrs |
I used to feel like that all the time...like I was on the wrong side of a pane of glass, and couldn't QUITE reach the others... Isolation is all too common in today's society, and you can be just as isolated in a huge group of people as you can alone. I've managed to find my path out of that, and figure out how to actually enjoy and live my life, but it's taken a good bit of work! Hugs! Two roads diverged in a wood and I, I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference. (R. Frost) | |
| 23 Dec 09, 8:38 PM threadkiller 9 yrs |
spot on Jess.... Couldn't have phrased it better myself. but then i just smile and think.... as quoted by miss_felicity recently! "i can do what I want, when i want, with whom i want"!!! He's like fire and ice and rage. He's like the night and the storm and the heart of the sun, He's ancient and forever. He burns at the centre of the time and he can see the turn of the universe…and he's wonderful..... Edited 23 Dec 09, 8:39 PM by threadkiller | |
| 24 Dec 09, 3:37 PM houseproudest UK(SE), 4 yrs |
self-appointed judges judge more than they have sold i made this | |
| 24 Dec 09, 3:48 PM the_unsub 2 yrs |
Quite often, I suppose I often wonder if I ever really connect with people or if I'm just going through the motions. It can help to put your thoughts in order, try and understand how you think/feel. Do you keep a journal? If not I'd suggest you start, keep a record of your thoughts and feelings that only you will see. Use it to put your thoughts and feelings in order, then go back and reread it. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step - Confucius | |
| 30 Dec 09, 8:10 PM Flouncer 2 yrs |
I had an answer for you formulating in my head until I looked at your profile and realised that you are the ripe young age of 21. Everyone feels how you are feeling at some point in their lives but it is usually spread over the years of growing up, maturing and going through the experiences and feelings that life throws at you through time. I am 48 years old and have felt all that you have described. I have dealt with disasterous and heart breaking life events and watched some of those around me crumble under the strain of losing children, partners etc. My heart has been broken through the death of those I love and my trust betrayed by those in-seperable from me. This is all just part of life and what it throws at you. My concern is that someone of such a young age has all those feelings trapped in one body all at the same time. SEEK HELP. |
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