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| relaxed1 |
on Fri 18 Dec 09, 7:27 PM to relaxed1's blog.
I will admit, ab initio, to being a fairly emotional person. I have never had any issues with myself, either with seeking an emotional connection or showing emotion. Not excessively, I don't think, but emotion nonetheless. Perhaps this is incompatible with D/s, but I'd much rather be too free with my emotions than too 'cold'.
It has got me into trouble in the past, not real trouble (obviously) but the kind of trouble where someone feels uncomfortable with emotion, or at least with emotion being freely displayed.
Now I have, as I said at the beginning, no issues with being emotional. I see it as just a part of who I am and I don't plan, even if I could, to try to suppress it or be something that I'm not. But it makes me wonder sometimes if there is something incompatible with emotional expression and relationships, of any kind, vanilla or D/s. Perhaps that's not what I mean. Put another way, if there is some magical (but unseen) point before which emotional expression in acceptable.
What is the definition of emotion anyway?
“A mental state that arises spontaneously rather than through conscious effort and is often accompanied by physiological changes; a feeling”
That seems as good a definition as any other.
So, that's the definition. It seems to make sense too. It is a spontaneous event. Which makes sense. After all, what is an 'emotional response' that only occurs when prompted? A lie, deceit, a lazy thought?
I guess that the real issue is in the outward display or expression of emotions. It seems they can make someone else feel uncomfortable, even perhaps if the person is seeking an emotional connection. Now that's perhaps reasonable to expect if the emotion, of whatever nature, isn't reciprocated. But what is the alternative? Not to express emotion, on the presumption that it may not be reciprocated? That strikes me as just foolish.
After all, one person always has to make the first move with anything whether is be to do with attraction, D/s, friendship or whatever. And that entails taking a risk.
Anyway, here endeth my excursion into navel-gazing on a cold and snowy winter's day.
| 28 Feb 10, 11:10 AM Manson UK(M), 2 yrs |
The word risk sums it up really. Expressing your emotions is a risk; will exposing the real "you" make others uncomfortable? Will it "spoil" things if the reciprocation isn't there? Certainly, in my experience, that can be the case.
But sometimes the outcome can be well worth the risk
As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. - Goethe. Edited 28 Feb 10, 11:11 AM by Manson | |
| 7 Mar 10, 7:15 PM newbie38 UK(DD), 2 yrs |
IMO being real is the only way to live, and that means accepting your emotions as well as others as valid responses to what's happening.
I see you're a father - try reading the kids book 'The Velveteen Rabbit' - it's cute but there's a very pertinent point to it. If you don't like it maybe your kids will |
