Posted by skyfox
on Wed 16 Dec 09, 7:53 PM to skyfox's blog.
My sister is single. (She lives in the US, so don't ask!) She said she went out on a date with this guy, and had a really great time, in fact, it sounded like the best date she's ever been on. But then she said that she knew it wasn't going anywhere romantically because he's a female-to-male transsexual (I forget if he's pre- or post-op).
I'll admit that my lines of sexuality have blurred somewhat in the past few years, and I'm much more accepting of people for themselves rather than the box they tick, but I'm pretty sure that, say, five years ago, I would have said the same. I told her to keep her options open cause it sounds like he's pretty cool. Not that I'd know what I'd myself do in that situation now, but then, like I said, I suppose it depends on the person.
My question to you, IC: how open are you to dating a transsexual? How would you feel if one of your family was dating a transsexual? Especially a F2M. (How many F2M are out there, anyway?)
| 16 Dec 09, 8:07 PM Iphis_me UK(E), 4 yrs  |
Absolutely open - why not? I'm interested in people, not genders anyway, if they interested me as a person I would have no hesitation (about the fact that they were trans). If a member of my family was dating someone who was trans I wouldn't give a shit about the fact that they were trans - I actually think it's a pretty strange question to ask TBH.
I had a pretty major crush on a friend of mine at college who was F2M, he was the first trans person I was aware of knowing. He had a partner who was with him pre-transition, through transition and beyond. I'm no longer in touch with him unfortunately - he was an interesting guy in all sorts of ways and I so would have
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates Edited 16 Dec 09, 8:16 PM by Iphis_me | |
| 16 Dec 09, 8:09 PM go_dutch UK(AL), 3 yrs  |
I know of at least one FTM on the scene, though you would never know to look at him.
personally I don't think it would come up. I've never fancied a trans, and never met one that I'd consider girlfriend material, though if it did come up and I was ashamed of showing her to my family I would definitely need to think the relationship through... Special Ed *WARNING do not click if you cannot take a joke or are too sensitive* | |
| 16 Dec 09, 8:48 PM FairyGirl UK(YO), 2 yrs   |
Do you mean male to female rather than female to male? ...
"Nothing saves anyone's life, Sir. It just postpones their death." - Posner , The History Boys. Edited 16 Dec 09, 8:49 PM by FairyGirl | |
| 16 Dec 09, 9:30 PM SlutLesley UK(G), 4 yrs |
From what I read, it's pretty obviously female to male. You do get guys born in women's bodies too! Anyway, in answer to the OP, Yes I would date a FtM Transsexual, but being a MtF transsexual myself, I know what the issues are like, and i'm open to the idea. As has been said, it's the person within thats important, not the body they arrived in this earth in. As for non-trans folk dating a transsexual, I have dated a couple of "vanilla" non trans guys, but I do think they got a little spooked by it. It takes a very open minded and confident person to date a trans-woman, or trans-man, because they can open themselves up to a world of discrimination and abuse too. It's not an easy thing to do. But I do have trans friends who are in successful relationships with non trans partners. As to how many are out there, there are quite a few. I personally have met 8 through various support groups, and know of more out there. They do reckon there are less FtM transsexuals than MtF transsexuals though. I think the statistics suggest there are 3 times the amount of MtF compared to FtM. just my 2p's worth. Lesley x | |
| 16 Dec 09, 9:54 PM FairyGirl UK(YO), 2 yrs |
Loltimes, I fully didn't read that properly!
Apologies I don't *think* I would have a problem with any kind of trans-person, but then I've never been in the situation to know. "Nothing saves anyone's life, Sir. It just postpones their death." - Posner , The History Boys. | |
| 16 Dec 09, 11:16 PM tony999 UK, 5 yrs |
Can't they fix that too?
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Edited 16 Dec 09, 11:17 PM by tony999 |
