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| curvykitten |
I was thinking recently how the hell i could mention to my family about my BDSM interests - but tonite whilst watching the prog on ITV1 "Real Life - my mum is my dad", back in 1980 (hardly a 'life time' ago!) if you wanted a trans-gender op, u had to agree to divorce your wife (or husband) and totally cut yourself off from your family before the clinic would agree to the op, and they also held the right to stop the process if these rules were breached! Somewhat draconian measures, esp for the 80's! (when we hardly have victorian principles any more)
The immense trauma experienced just by feeling like the wrong gender in your own body is so much to contend with, added to the pro's & cons to having surgery, a new life etc must be horrific enough - without then also having to 'choose' to leave and abandon your spouse and children!
It just goes to show, even though sometimes we might not be aware of it, how much some things have moved on and become more 'acceptable' to the mainstream.
If and when i do tell my ex & sons etc, they may accept it or they may not, but i wont be castigated or chucked out(or even worse, forced to leave!)the house or family!!
Algol xx
Edited Sun 1 Aug 04, 10:44 PM by curvykitten
