14 Dec 09, 4:47 PM
SheilaBlyge
UK(S), 4 yrs
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Gothic_Kell wrote:
SheilaBlyge wrote:
As for dress size... fibbing about maybe one size is one thing, but the OP's experience was someone saying size 12-14 (bit curvy), when in fact they were size 20 (obese).
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I would agree with the idea behind this theory! Little white lies about dress size and age etc? I don't have a problem with, but saying your '30 something' then being closer to 50! that isn't fair. Profiles can be seen in an similar light as CVs. I was told many years ago in relation to my CV 'sell yourself'. However I tend too be modest.
I would disagree with 'size 20' as being 'obese' as dress size can relate to height. I understand your point tho.
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Yes, you are quite right about the dress size/height aspect, I do agree... I'm guilty of applying a bit of a sweeping generalisation there, sorry.  Edited 14 Dec 09, 4:49 PM by SheilaBlyge
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14 Dec 09, 4:59 PM
ClassAct2005
UK(N), 7 yrs
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As said early on on the thread don't correspond too long before speaking on the telephone and then meeting. I agree with the people who say it can still be interesting to have met people and talked even if one side find there is no spark. I certainly wouldn't try to disappear early if someone had made the effort to turn up. |
14 Dec 09, 5:13 PM
wonderer
UK, 5 yrs
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Scribbles wrote:
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Some people get their jollies by imagining meeting people. They approach loads of potential partners, and get hardened to a high level of rejection. When they encounter one who will meet them - the suddenly it is potentially real. Gulp. And they chicken out. Annoying, but there it is.
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I've met a few people from here, one on one, generally purely on a friendship basis. (Not all are on my RL network for some reason). Never let anyone down (was once late  ) nor been let down. All have been as described in profiles, and more importably good company. (Even when on occasion my nervousness has made me somewhat inarticulate). Generally I'm a confident person but on a couple of occasions I've been a bit apprehensive or concerned, but have never dreamt of letting anyone down by not turning up. That would seem grossly ungentlemanly and discourteous. And I would have missed out from what turned out to be really lovely encounters.
Ubi caritas et amor, Deus ibi est. http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/226772/
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14 Dec 09, 5:49 PM
SheilaBlyge
UK(S), 4 yrs
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wonderer wrote:
Scribbles wrote:
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Some people get their jollies by imagining meeting people. They approach loads of potential partners, and get hardened to a high level of rejection. When they encounter one who will meet them - the suddenly it is potentially real. Gulp. And they chicken out. Annoying, but there it is.
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I've met a few people from here, one on one, generally purely on a friendship basis. (Not all are on my RL network for some reason). Never let anyone down (was once late ) nor been let down. All have been as described in profiles, and more importably good company. (Even when on occasion my nervousness has made me somewhat inarticulate). Generally I'm a confident person but on a couple of occasions I've been a bit apprehensive or concerned, but have never dreamt of letting anyone down by not turning up. That would seem grossly ungentlemanly and discourteous. And I would have missed out from what turned out to be really lovely encounters.
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This comment made me realise that my curiousity and dislike of 'missing out' means I'm far more likely to go through with something than not, no matter how much it scares me!  |
14 Dec 09, 6:53 PM
Beau_Tox
UK(CB), 7 yrs
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BlksubLondon wrote:
During the drink at the bar she said " Do you realise you could be eating out my pussy in an hour? "
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Sounds like a good start to a meet to me... * * *
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You're just like the London sun. You're over and done with before you've begun.
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14 Dec 09, 7:03 PM
x_Pan_x
UK(E), 8 yrs
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Perhaps when you met, she found that the man you'd said you were online was *really* ugly inside - and easily manipulated you into never seeing her again.
I like the sound of her.
BlksubLondon wrote:
So let me see if I understand you correctly. If you had been talking to someone online who stated that they were a size 12 -14 and when you eventually met up with person question, she was size 20 , you would continue to meet up with a view to having a possible D/s relationship ?
The fact is that she lied and wasted my time by lying to me . We all have our preferences in terms of who one wants to meet. Don't we ...?
x_Pan_x wrote:
BlksubLondon wrote:
Timewasters and liars
Of course there are those that waste eachothers' time by claiming to be someone they are not in terms of their appearance and character. It has happened to me on 2 or 3 occasions. I have often wondered what they are thinking. Do they honestly think I would want to go ahead with the ' meet ' purely because I had shown up? Certainly not. On one occasion I did go ahead and have a drink with someone who I knew I was never going to see again. During the drink at the bar she said " Do you realise you could be eating out my pussy in an hour? " I was like " Great, whoopie. " I eventually made up some excuse that I had to meet my brother but would be back later. She gave me her address and that was the last I saw of her.
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Maybe she thought you were the most ugly, horrid and shallow person she'd ever met and decided to shock you into never wanting you to contact her again?
Just a thought.
I would stay longer to help you out more, but I've got to go and meet my brother.
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14 Dec 09, 8:11 PM
eloesa
UK(SO), 7 yrs
  
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I have been lucky when I've met people on here and so far people have been more or less what they said they were.
I think it's best not to expect anything when you're going to meet up .. I only ever meet as friends ie two people meeting for a coffee /drink for a shortish time-( tho'once I met at a club)If it ends up longer then that's a good thing! And then , if there is no spark there, which there usually isn't, it doesn't matter - I've made (hopefully) a good friend
elo They say, the best men are moulded out of faults; And, for the most, become much more the better for being a little bad.
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14 Dec 09, 8:15 PM
FairyGirl
UK(YO), 3 yrs
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"Nothing saves anyone's life, Sir. It just postpones their death." - Posner , The History Boys.
All it takes for bad English to prevail is for literate people to do nothing.
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14 Dec 09, 9:31 PM
MsArachne
IT, 6 yrs
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AirViceMarshal wrote:
BlksubLondon wrote:
Timewasters and liars
"I eventually made up some excuse that I had to meet my brother but would be back later. She gave me her address and that was the last I saw of her."
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That would be wasting someone's time and a telling a lie then?
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That's what I said, but it seems I somehow 'got the wrong end of the stick' lol
In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. ~ Albert Camus
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14 Dec 09, 10:08 PM
just_iana
UK(SS), 6 yrs
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i am a bit bemused by the question...
you met someone you hadnt seen a picture for, when apparantly looks matter to you...
maybe you wasted her time?
surely you also wasted her time when you lied about seeingg her again, and lying that you had to go meet someone else
but...
moe importantly, at some stage, if you feel there is potential for a relationship/encounter of any realness, you have to move away from behind your screen and see if the reality is tangible...
you "assessed" it not to be
how is that wasting your time?
had she dared you for 3 months then decided she didnt want a future with you, would that too have ben wastign your time?
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