Opportunistic memos - love 'em or hate 'em? (45)

That's actually happened to me!

I typed a message for a vanilla conversation in a kinky window. Could have been worse, could have been a lot worse.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step - Confucius

Had loads of unsolicited memos the past few months and I will answer a memo if, and when, I want to. I know I can be seen on line, but if some one wants to stalk me then that is up to them. I do answer most memos, although I can be a bit late with some of them.

Chat annoys the hell out of me and if someone is sending me messages I either go to MSN or I put them on ignore. My MSN blocked is getting a bit full and I wish I could delete the deleted box

Is it being hit on? Mostly yes, with the content of the memos I receive. I do get some non hit on ones, but they are mainly from women. If someone will not get the message then I just put them on ignore.

RD xx

It is not what you say or do but the way you say or do it
"Russian roulette is not the same without a gun and baby when its love, if it's not rough ,then it is not fun"

(waiting for someone to tell me it was really a man disguised as a girl...)

"Tie yourself to me. No, no, no, no you're not rid of Me."
PJ Harvey, Rid of Me

Edited 10 Dec 09, 9:55 PM by tokyoyearzero

I'm with the "it depends" crew. It depends what the memo writer is saying to me.

If it is Hi, how are you? then I would find it intrusive and would reply when I felt like doing so. My reply will probably match the tone of the memo. In this case I'm quite likely to respond Fine thanks and then ignore for a few hours, or a day or two, the next memo that comes in from that person.

If it were something that would lead to an interesting conversation then I probably would enjoy it. However, I'm not going to rush to respond, the person who sent the memo may well see that I am on site but they have no idea what else I might be doing and only one person can command my time.

As a slight diversion from topic, if I'm in the chat room I really really hate it when a new chat message pops up from someone else who is in the chat room. If I'm in the chat room, then that's where I want to be and not in a private chat with someone I don't know!

Friends know how to contact me if they want me.

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How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world... Anne Frank

I hate being hit on (I may be using that in a different sense to wonderer - I use it to mean an attempt to chat me up) but also get the occasional memo commenting on a post or with something intersting or significant to say. Those are the ones I reply to. I'm not available, so don't like to waste my time or anyone else's dealing with chat-ups, so I ignore those. I don't chat to wanky men on IC or anywhere else, I just block them. I only really do online chat with my daughter, my bloke and my very best friend, so 'chat by memo' is fairly common with me.

It's only a weblog

{ETA - cross-posted with Romola but see she somethimes likes this too.}

At the other extreme are those who treat memos more like letters and seem only to read the ones which are there when they sign on, and to ignore any that appear while signed on.

And I've sometimes suspected that some people dislike being memoed while they're online so much that they log off as soon as the memo sign starts flashing. But I might be wrong - the 5 minute lag thing - they might already be logged off when I memo.

I do think IC would be a poorer place though if we lost the visibility of when last online and also the ability to se whether or not a memo had been read. For people who like interaction they're very valuable features.

IC Chat seems to cause technical problems on many people's computers (including mine; I have to restart the browser every minute or two).

Different people choose different ways.

Ooooh how nice of you to say so . I always enjoy those nice exchanges with interesting people. Hope in my attempt to be civilised and interested in what you'd posted I didn't forget to say what gorgeous pics

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Edited 11 Dec 09, 7:43 AM by wonderer

Edited 11 Dec 09, 3:32 AM by SheilaBlyge

She now has a memo from a desperate total stranger and is not well impressed. When told she doesn't do chat or given some other message about reading profiles first, admit you wanted to catch her on line.

Red lights are now flashing that say 'loser' 'desperate' and other uncomplimentary messages. You've blown it for life.

Having said that, friends can be quite welcome and someone who shows they bothered to read the profile sometimes can, but I don't sit at IC for long periods of time and insistence on moving to chat is a death sentence. Asserting fetishes on the hard limit list that he obviously hasn't read and still insisting on chat to discuss his needs (not mine) is good for the Romanov treatment.

Think of it from the Domme's point of view. You may know you're a wonderful person, but she has nothing but a name and yet another desperate plea out of hundreds.

Note that the word 'desperate' has gone by three times in the above. That should answer the question of what impression it gives.

(I for one almost never send the "nice tits" or "wanna chat" or "spank my arse" sort of memo; only very occasionally, in a context where I know the person well enough to be fairly sure it will be well received, or perhaps cause mirth).

SheilaBlyge wrote: ^^^ Aha... sly yet debonaire! *tips hat* Thank you for the kind compliment

Not a compliment - just stating the obvious

But "sly"?

Some poeple think I'm transparent.

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