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| 7 Dec 09, 10:12 PM vixylix 2 yrs |
I understand what you are saying, but for some of us it is not just kinky fun but a way of life too.
Because nothing says "I love you" like wanting to eat your girlfriend... | ||
| 7 Dec 09, 10:14 PM TheScorpionQueen UK(CH), 5 yrs  |
A strength that can deal with a weakness for a weakness of strengths ~ it's how you want it to be plus relish ..... tada! | ||
| 7 Dec 09, 10:19 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs  |
I can't not be submissive so it's not fair to ask if I "like" it. Sometimes it's a nuisance because otherwise very suitable nice vanilla men wouldn't be suitable for me, whereas if I weren't sub then they would so to an extent it's limiting but when it works it feels right for me, just like a gay man being with another gay man feels right in the sense he never would with a woman. He might well wish he weren 't gay as it's not so easy then to have children nor so socially acceptable even now, but it's a fairly pointless question for him or indeed for me to wish we aren't as we are. | ||
| 7 Dec 09, 10:22 PM slave_24 UK(BS), 4 yrs |
For me its strength although i get strength and confidence from many things.Bdsm is a release and can give that little extra strength to take on the world and what it throws at me Were on an adventure hunting for treasure | ||
| 7 Dec 09, 10:29 PM Betony UK, 7 yrs |
This | ||
| 7 Dec 09, 11:10 PM Vamp_Mystik UK(WA), 3 yrs |
Someone once said to me that they consider it a curse..... I cant say that i hold to that, but i do know that not being a part of the 'Scene' as of yet, it is frustratingly difficult to sometimes move forward. Without question, i would say it is 'Normal' to the individual and once experienced the clock can never to be turned back. It will always be part of you. The ever perpetual search to enjoy and satisfy the need.... | ||
| 7 Dec 09, 11:16 PM tails18 UK(OX), 2 yrs |
Weakness I reckon, because people who are into it as we are a few and far between, when you find somone you instantly try to like them regardless of their failings, you can end up in a relationship with somone purly for your shared intrest and not you compatibility. Just my view anyways X | ||
| 7 Dec 09, 11:26 PM WykD_Dave UK(DE), 9 yrs |
This is a funny question. It's like liking Marmite or brown sauce. Some do some don't. It's not a strength or a weakness it's just the way people are. And what do you mean by liking BDSM anyway? There's so many ways to play and so many activities that fall under BDSM and plenty of people who are only into one or even only some of them. Plus there's always someone who will argue what is or isn't BDSM. So no, it doesn't make you strong, weak, better, worse, tall or short. Like Marmite it's a personal taste. Can't stand Marmite. | ||
| 7 Dec 09, 11:28 PM PrinceCaspian UK(SE), 6 yrs |
Neither it's just liking BDSM. I wouldn't say liking cricket or sex was a strength or weakness and this is just another preference that cannot be submitted to ubiquitous value judgements. Subjectively I tend to think people with more ecletic and diverse interests tend to be stronger than those without so the addition of BDSM (but not at the expense of a myriad of other interests!) could be thought as indicating strength of character. (to me) But liking BDSM itself would not be the strenght. And last night, when my hands were choking you.
Last night, when the room and your mood was dipping
And last night, when the ropes were pulling you in….
You said, “Hey, how could you love me this way?” | ||
| 7 Dec 09, 11:57 PM kayak1 UK(PA), 4 yrs |
I'm with this |
When someone is prepared to keep looking within and stretch their understanding of what makes them just them in whatever way is attractive. Personally someone whose only interest is this lifestyle would be bland so much more to life 