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Constant craving (35)

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15 Dec 09, 11:50 AM
subbietrouble
2 yrs

For me it's the other way round - I'm a masochist who uses D/s as a proxy for the pain I wish to receive. So for me, the inconvenience, discomfort, self-denial, etc of D/s are like minor forms of s&m - a kind of foreplay to it. If it was up to me, I'd be playing all the time - the fact that it's not up to me is just another layer of the masochism that I wish to experience.

I think people often divide into which is the strongest need - I'm very definitely a masochist who likes to submit (the D/s is optional, the s&m is not) for you it may be the other way round.

trouble xxx

15 Dec 09, 11:52 AM
Belasarius
UK(M), 8 yrs

relaxed1 wrote:

OllieVW wrote:
I was under the impression in a D/s relationship subs dont particularly like or want pain but to serve and please they up with it. Isnt that why its called punishment?

Not at all. In a D/s relationship, the 'contract' between the parties governs what should and shouldn't happen. If the dominant manufactures an infraction in order to punish the submissive, that would be wrong. A dominant is entitled to use his submissive in whatever way he desires, whether is be whipping her, fucking her, using her as a footstool - it all depends on the nature of their dynamic.

Some subs enjoy and crave pain, some don't, but all want the power exchange, the control. That is the essence of D/s

But punishment as punishment exists within a D/s dynamic as well as pain for erotic effect. We use both - and a spanking as punishment is clearly different from a spanking from erotic effect. It feels different, and the results - and the emotions created - are diferent.

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15 Dec 09, 8:35 PM
FuerstvonBismarck
UK(BH), 2 yrs

Belasarius wrote:

relaxed1 wrote:

OllieVW wrote:
I was under the impression in a D/s relationship subs dont particularly like or want pain but to serve and please they up with it. Isnt that why its called punishment?

Some subs enjoy and crave pain, some don't, but all want the power exchange, the control. That is the essence of D/s

Funny thing is, that the emotions created by an harsh punishment (which was meant such), are leading almost every time to a calm and satisfying situation for both parties. And - on top - with an erotic touch.

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16 Dec 09, 11:16 AM
alandra
UK(BH), 6 yrs

I think I am more masochist than submissive, I crave pain...need pain...love pain and hate pain, in short, pain is important to me. I needed a Master sadistic enough to satisfy my masochistic side and loving,caring and experienced enough to know when to stop.

My craving for pain needs the control that Master has over it as this slave would get herself broken without it.

Do I crave pain? Yes, but with that comes the need to be controlled.

These are my personal thoughts and feelings and I know we are all different.

to those that understand, no explaination is needed, to those that dont understand, no explaination is possible

16 Dec 09, 12:27 PM
Beau_Tox
UK(CB), 7 yrs

Constant craving..?

Hasn't it always been?

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