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Dacryphilia - arousal from tears (60)

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9 Dec 09, 7:59 PM
MissKimberley
NL, 8 yrs

the_unsub wrote:

MissKimberley wrote:

houseproudest wrote:
what is it you like about it Miss K?

Vulnerability, having reached not only a physical limit but also an emotional one. Most men will take pain 'as it is considered manly' but very few will cry. Pushing through that boundary is very erotic and elicits a feeling of being very close to that person, more so than through a physical experience alone. Women overall tend to cry more easily and I have not met many men that will cry in the presence of other people. That makes it more of a challenge for me, a taboo among men if you like. If that makes sense. I suppose it's why I like anal play too, a lot of hetero boyfriends have often mentioned not wanting to do anything involving anal play because they consider that to be for gay men. I enjoy pushing people beyond their comfort zone, without pushing them too far.

Crying is an emotional release and a statement of what we are feeling, a perfectly healthy reaction. I can see why it can help you to feel emotionally close.

You're right, it is a taboo among men. something we're conditioned to avoid.I remember I used to be prone to crying in my early years, something that became a point of ridicule. Now I do everything I can to avoid that particular emotional release when others are present, I still see it at a sign of weakness.

At the time we don't realise the damage we're ultimately doing.

I think that's exactly it, I find a man who can show his feelings and isn't embarrassed to cry sexy. Allowing himself to be vulnerable in my presence means he is comfortable in himself and trusts me. I don't find people who cry all the time for no apparent reason sexy, but that's not what I mean. I certainly don't think men should be ridiculed or humiliated for crying, I think a man who is able to understand his feelings and accepts all of his physical and emotional responses as a part of him, is much more attractive (to me).

“During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act” - George Orwell

9 Dec 09, 9:26 PM
dedicated_kitty
UK(LN), 3 yrs

Glovepuppet wrote:
This is a really random one for me as a sub but I really like seeing men cry. Perhaps it's because it's rare.

Gets me really rather hot under the collar. Make that film!

Incidentally has Ewan McGregor ever cried on film? (Linky please)

I have to agree with you there, it's definitely somehow appealing. Strange, but then it helps that the guy in the Kleenex ad is rather yummy. Although seeing someone cry would probably just give me an irresistable urge to cuddle them, which is a shame.

10 Dec 09, 1:42 AM
Goldilocks
UK(SE), 5 yrs

I've never seen a man cry in porn but I rarely watch BDSM porn and I doubt anyone would be tearful in normal sexual porn. I am sure that male subs cry within scenes though. Just not necessarily ones that are filmed and posted on the internet for people to wank over. Kink.com have a lot of F/m porn like 'meninpain' and there are probably scenes within those videos where the men cry.

Away from BDSM, I have seen many men cry in films (as well as women, of course). Not quite the same thing though as a male sub crying during play.

In terms of dacryphilia, I have found the images of men and/or women crying arousing such as this one.

More often than not though, if someone is crying (whether it's on TV, in a film, in real life or something else) it usually makes me feel tearful/sad too rather than aroused. It's only occasionally that I find the tears or tearful eyes an actual turn on.

I've never purposely sought out any crying pornography or any BDSM porn with tears in it. I can't really help you with links to videos of men being used and abused so much that they cry unfortunately. Hope you find what you're looking for though!

Also, tears taste yummy! I like to taste my own tears when I cry. And I like to look at myself when I cry or shortly after. I think I look more beautiful with the shine on my cheeks and that emotional rawness that people often get.

Tears <3

xX Goldie Xx

Edited 10 Dec 09, 1:47 AM by Goldilocks

10 Dec 09, 7:28 PM
subjayBelfast
UK(BT), 3 yrs

Its all to do with the big boys dont cry thing, although i reckon a raw chilli or something similar inserted under my foreskin or in the uretha would make my eyes water! Having said that i would run a mile if i thought from something like that personally.

10 Dec 09, 8:23 PM
Clyde1
UK(NW), 5 yrs

i do tend to yelp and resist but i also fantasise about being pushed to a place where i accept the pain (physical or emotional) and release floods of tears... Sorry it doesn't help with the porn bit... But there are a number of sub men out there that desire to be taken to that place...

Clyde

10 Dec 09, 10:09 PM
MissKimberley
NL, 8 yrs

So much for my wank thread... all this deep shit and all I wanted was to cum

“During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act” - George Orwell

11 Dec 09, 10:04 PM
Isadora
3 yrs

dedicated_kitty wrote:
Although seeing someone cry would probably just give me an irresistable urge to cuddle them, which is a shame.

...gives me the urge to make them cry even more. They may get a cuddle if they bleed for me.

11 Dec 09, 11:44 PM
picksy
UK(PL), 4 yrs

The Cure said "boys dont cry" ....i will tomorrow if Rovers lose ! May post a pic !

I'm not your type , i'm not inflatable x

12 Dec 09, 11:35 AM
femsup
UK(NW), 5 yrs

I seem to remember Bitchy Jones having a few pics of men in distress and crying and there may be links with it.

14 Dec 09, 7:25 PM
MissKimberley
NL, 8 yrs

femsup wrote:
I seem to remember Bitchy Jones having a few pics of men in distress and crying and there may be links with it.

Couldn't find anything, resorted to beating the other half instead

“During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act” - George Orwell

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