Why won't anyone play with me? (6)

I'm sorry to read about the end of your LTR, especially as it seems to have knocked the stuffing out of you, which (under the circumstances you have described) is a natural reaction. Although it ended 2 years ago I, somehow, get the feeling (from the tone of your memo) that, maybe, you're not completely over it, yet... could this be the case?

You say that you've done all that you can to maintain old and forge new friendships and feel that you're well liked... do you think it's possible that you're body is giving out messages to others that's saying you're not in a good place/ready for play or a new relationship?

People can be quite intuitive and can sense all sorts of things about others around them based on how they communicate; how they say things, what they say and their general demeanour. Is it possible that you could be suffering with a mild form of depression and that others are sensing that... perhaps they don't feel you're ready for any involvement, yet?

Try to remain positive and upbeat... people who are good to be around, fun and happy are far more attractive than those who aren't - we all give out signals to others, albeit subconsciously.

If you don't want to visit your doctor and don't feel that you may be suffering with anxiety or mild depression, perhaps you could try some herbal remedies... St.Johns Wort is a well-known homeopathic medicine to help relieve depression, along with others listed here - Holland & Barrett stock it, if you would like to try it, what have you got to lose?

I'm sure you'll meet someone who will want to play but, sadly, no-one knows when we will meet them... please don't start to feel desperate; people can also sense that and it won't help you to attain what you want.

Be nice to yourself, if you've done nothing wrong, carry on with what you're doing... and stay positive.

With love and hugs, "Auntie".

Edited 4 Dec 09, 11:19 PM by The_Problem_Page

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Thank you...

With love and hugs, "Auntie".

"Throughout history, it has been the inaction of those who could have acted; the indifference of those who should have known better; the silence of the voice of justice when it mattered most; that has made it possible for evil to triumph." Haile Selassie, 1892-1975

Im useless 'on the pull' as I have no initial confidence what so ever. Like you though if it's going into a group of people to just be social, and make friends, im fine and can jump into a room and talk to anyone. It's the stress, and fear, of rejection that causes my failings in self confidence.

I've been through the mill of late, not really had a LTR, but in the last few years I have left my ex-wife for a second time (tried again), and been with a fair few women of whom two i had very very strong feelings for. These relationships came more for chating on FaceBook would you believe, which in itself sort of sets up the ability to chat to someone with a view to meeting, but takes away the stress of that 'face-to'face' interaction.

I don't know myself how to conquer that fear. Im told constantly by my female friends that im amazing, gorgeous etc etc, in some ways it annoys me as if im so this way, why am I single huh ? It's very true though what has been said above, this in itself, this way of thought, ultimately shows in your body language.

For me I have to try and conquer this fear, and start loving myself which i find very hard to do. Im not a pretty man, or overly attractive, so my ego and confidence is never boosted by a women being attracted to me. I have to find a way to resolve this myself, likewise you will find a way. What way that is I cannot tell you, each person is so unique.

I really hope you do find a way to resolve this and find someone who will be as obviously kind, solvent and mindfull as you seem.

I wish you all the best !

Good luck and warm wishes for your continued journey.

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