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| 4 Dec 09, 6:55 PM Susan_Williams UK(CH), 3 yrs   |
You know how to how to win friends and influence people then! Susan Williams | |||
| 4 Dec 09, 6:57 PM Crystal_Eyes UK, 5 yrs   |
About as sufficiently as you know how to spot a troll when you see one, it would seem. ------------------------------------------ | |||
| 4 Dec 09, 6:58 PM proccie UK(HP), 6 yrs  |
Get yerself out on the scene young man. Zen S&M: The sound of one hand smacking. | |||
| 4 Dec 09, 6:59 PM Susan_Williams UK(CH), 3 yrs |
Unfortunately it is one of the drawbacks of the Internet. I have come across it many time in other forums as well. Sad but one of those inescapable facts of life. Susan Williams | |||
| 4 Dec 09, 6:59 PM the_unsub 2 yrs |
The voice of reason, very good point A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step - Confucius | |||
| 4 Dec 09, 7:03 PM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
Oh, I don't know. It does help identify people to avoid, when you do go out and about. | |||
| 4 Dec 09, 7:23 PM Wildmessilina 2 yrs |
Hey Seb, you've probably done nothing wrong so I wouldn't worry about it. Let the dim's get you down and they have won. As others have suggested, and from a quick read of your profile...try getting out and meeting people face to face. A munch isnt generally where people eat you alive
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| 4 Dec 09, 7:26 PM Atrebate UK, 4 yrs |
To the OP: come to the LAM. You can go to a market, look at all sorts of crazy stuff on sale, sit in the audience at a couple of workshops, and then go home, and not have to talk to anyone except the door staff... but if you want to the stall-holders are friendly 'cos they're selling stuff, and the staff are pretty approachable, and the bar staff are at least as freaked out as you are, and if you really wanted to you could hang around for a coffee or a beer and people-watch, or maybe even speak to some other punters. About kinky stuff. Or football or the weather or whatever. Markets: comfortingly anonymous, but with munchability. I say come to LAM because (a) I help out there, and (b) it's on this Sunday, but there are other markets, including LFF here in London. PS ignore the haters (It's because they have no genitals; it's terrible to think about it really). "There's no D/s in Team" (Sparks, V., 2009, pers. comm.) | |||
| 4 Dec 09, 7:32 PM littlenic 5 yrs |
Munches quite probably *are* the answer, but as others have said, they're not for everyone. My first was awful - too small, with hardly anyone to talk to and no one on my wavelength. Luckily it was my second event, having been to the LAM the day before, and there I met some interesting folks and made a good friend to get out and about and attend other things with. But the majority of my live interactions with people have started by memo, and that absolutely can work too. As someone else said earlier though, it works much better if you get in touch about something specific - a shared interest, a comment on something posted, that sort of thing. Rather like how in the real world it's much easier to generate a conversation about something specific, rather than just sidle up to people in bars and say, "Hi, wanna chat?" or, "Hi, this is what I'm into, let me know if you're interested." Edited 4 Dec 09, 7:41 PM by littlenic | |||
| 4 Dec 09, 7:40 PM SDWsdw UK(NW), 5 yrs |
I agree with what Chrisp wrote. Yes the OP has asked for advice, but you have to be blunt with him. I have noticed that some people on IC have a victim mentality and that the world some how owes them something special. If the OP said that he is going to Iraqi to clear road side bombs or going to Afghanistan to fight the Taliban, then I could understand him being scared ! ! ! There is nothing scary about going to a munch, you are going to meet your fellow peers in a vanilla environment to socialise. If you are timid, then there are courses you can go on to give you confidence. So I suggest the OP look on the internet to find such courses. I have been to several munches and I go by myself. Yes I would say that when you first walk in it can be a bit daunting, but most people are friendly and easy to talk to. Like others have said all munches offer a meet and greet, so you have to get in contact with the organisers. Like Crystal Eyes said, “ you get what you put in '', you just have to be brave and take a leap of faith. If you sit back and let life pass you by, you only have your self to blame. Moaning and groaning is not the solution to your problems.
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