Posted by Ms_Tytania on Wed 2 Dec 09, 10:34 AM to Ms_Tytania's blog.
Do you really want to know?
Because being in a relationship isn't compulsory.
Because I am a complete person, even when I'm single. I don't feel I'm less of a woman cos I don't have a regular man.
Because I make a very grumpy celibate nun, but a happy singleton, so I'll be single for as long as it takes, which could easily be forever.
I've no biological clock, I own my house and I have a good job. I ain't in a hurry.
But I know these replies don't satisfy you. You know that the real reasons are:
You aren't a dog, but obviously, there is something wrong with you and you can't keep a man. They don't mind giving you one because - hey! that's what men are like, eh?... but they soon run for the hills because there is something wrong with you. You are probably unbearable, neurotic, prissy, opinionated and demanding. You have unrealistic expectations because you have a deluded sense of self.
Erm,, yeah, actually, I have a very deluded sense of myself. It's what's helped succeed in life, as Barbra Streisand once said “you don't have to be beautiful; you have to behave as if you are”. It works everytime. For beautiful, read “talented, resourceful, optimistic, independent, confident…” you choose. Act them, and you ARE them.
So I read with pleasure a good friend's profile, where he states that he likes a woman who “have struggled to find a partner who can 'match' you.”
Woah, a man who isn't afraid of those terrifying, picky, man-frightening viragos! Does he know what he's getting into? Obviously, he needs to hear the good advice of the “she's pretty but why hasn't she got a partner yet?” brigade. They know. There is something wrong and abject lurking behind those pretty fluttering lashes. There must be! Scylla and Charybdis! You've been warned, gentleman. Hold your plums.
Edited Wed 2 Dec 09, 11:06 AM by Ms_Tytania
| 2 Dec 09, 10:43 AM Mr_Worm UK(BN), 5 yrs      |
Independent people from different backgrounds seem to make good bedfellows (if that's a word). If you know what you want and it is achievable then why settle for something which will leave you unsated. Bemoaning your fate (and I'm not directing that towards you) seems to be human nature for a lot of people when they are single. Apologies if the above sounds like a random collection of sayings.
Sounds like someone is in for plum jam
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| 2 Dec 09, 11:06 AM clare 11 yrs |
Well I think this is a slightly skewed way of looking at things. I don't need a man to "validate me", whatever that means, but I would like a man to love. | ||
| 2 Dec 09, 11:20 AM Ms_Tytania 6 yrs |
It's not my point of view, but of those who ask the original question that prompted my blog. They seem to think that a person *needs* a partner. Love doesn't seem so important to them as having you safely coupled up. Those suspicious, stray singletons! "People are inherently evil, but very, very funny" - Joe Orton. Edited 2 Dec 09, 11:40 AM by Ms_Tytania | ||
| 2 Dec 09, 11:39 AM clare 11 yrs |
yeah sorry. Not reading clearly this morning. Well so what. It doesn't matter what the big "they" think. | ||
| 2 Dec 09, 12:18 PM Ms_Tytania 6 yrs |
In other words, you agree with those who think that being single is something negative, brought up by your own unappealing qualities? that nice people have partners, but nasty ones don't? "People are inherently evil, but very, very funny" - Joe Orton. | ||
| 2 Dec 09, 12:49 PM DrMajolica UK(NR), 6 yrs  |
a) Youre not helping yourself b) That wasnt the point of the post. c) Stop whining. d) Youre being ironic and I missed it. I think too much, therefore I am a bit of a twat. | ||
| 2 Dec 09, 1:07 PM wonderer UK, 5 yrs |
Some people feel the need for a life partner more than others. Some project their own needs on to others, and "feel sorry" for them inappropriately. Some are happy to be with or without a life partner and refuse to compromise on their selection criteria. Some don't see partnering as a "market". Ubi caritas et amor, Deus ibi est. http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/226772/ | ||
| 2 Dec 09, 1:32 PM Ms_Tytania 6 yrs |
What is a life partner, wonderer? is he/she someone you met at school and won't split till death do us part? Someone you met later in life, but again, till death do us part? and what are all the previous relationships you might have had ? They are not as valid because death didn't give them a certain "trascendance"? Most of us have more than one significant relationship in our lifetime. Just asking, not having a go at you. "People are inherently evil, but very, very funny" - Joe Orton. Edited 2 Dec 09, 1:52 PM by Ms_Tytania | ||
| 2 Dec 09, 2:00 PM wonderer UK, 5 yrs |
Good question, and perhaps poor use of terminology on my part. I guess I could have used more inclusive wording. It might be a (primary) partner *in* life rather than necessarily *for* (the rest of one's) life. Even I, married for 18 years, haven't had just that one partner.
Ubi caritas et amor, Deus ibi est. http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/226772/ | ||
| 2 Dec 09, 2:47 PM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs |
No, I just had a bad start to the day.
'Kiss the boot of shiny, shiny leather' - Velvet Underground |
