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Posted by Dapper_Dom on Mon 30 Nov 09, 3:57 AM to the Kinky_Singles_Forum group.
Whilst being single does not define me as a person, nor prevent or hinder me from enjoying myself on the scene or progressing, the fact is there are times when I do feel somewhat left out because of being single.
For example, I have been invited to a club which does admit single people, and I'm sure I'd feel quite welcomed. But, most of the people who attend are couples and so I'd be like a spectator in reality.
It also serves as a means for single people to discuss issues specific to them. I often find that single people face certain issues that people in relationships don't, and as such it's good to be able to talk amongst ourselves.
Thank you to Penwiggle and the moderators for your time, effort and work in providing this forum.
Thank you.
Edited Wed 2 Dec 09, 12:05 AM by Dapper_Dom
| 30 Nov 09, 9:07 AM Gabriel_Syme UK(B), 2 yrs   |
I second that remark! "BREAK THE SURLY BONDS OF EARTH, AND PUNCH THE FACE OF GOD!" - COURAGE WOLF | ||
| 30 Nov 09, 6:27 PM penwiggle UK(CB), 5 yrs  |
You are all very welcome. But, I'm just the spark here to get the fire going. It would be great if those who are already members would also promote the group. The more the merrier. Also, it would be fantastic, as it is a forum, if we could get some interesting topics going to generate discussion. I'm sure everyone doesn't want to hear me go on and on about life the universe and being single, all the time. I'm hoping, that if we get enough members, we can arrange a real-world get together, or two. Sort of an IC Singles Munch type thingy. If we make this a fun, informative, and interesting group, then people will be leaving their partners to join. Well, maybe not. xx Pen You say Ouch like it's a bad word. | ||
| 3 Dec 09, 7:43 AM aka_kelly UK(YO), 2 yrs |
A singles munch would be great, but, location would be awkward ,singles from the south to singles from northern scotland, and everywhere in between, then there's the prospect of 70% subs to 30% Dom/mes, figures estimated! Someone will have a solution though, maybe an event, and a charge for couples(he he)  Sometimes i'm kelly, sometimes i'm not, sometimes the difference is hard to spot! | ||
| 3 Dec 09, 5:26 PM Kilgore_Trout UK(W), 2 yrs |
I think it's definitely a very useful forum. One thing I'd like to add is this: I'd guess there are a fair few people who aren't just single at the moment, but who have never had a BDSM relationship before. If you see IC as a kind of online munch, no-one wants to be *that* guy sat in the corner, drinking a blag alcopop and straining to think of something to say that isn't conversational napalm. The main forum is geared toward experienced folk, which is all well and good, so it's nice to have a place that, although not strictly for the neophyte, lets noobs mingle and chat instead of being stuck in lonely corners of the snug, looking busy by pretending to write a Victorian novel-length text message. | ||
| 19 Dec 09, 5:20 PM sheepbaby UK(NG), 2 yrs |
you are right there being very new to this where do you start. when you are asked to be owned but never seen or met your owner. these are some of the things that would be nice to know too. how to meet | ||
| 19 Dec 09, 5:26 PM Ms_Tytania 6 yrs |
See it form a different angle: being single, you have more "freedom to roam". You can go to that club with a friend or friends of your choice; you can choose and pick; you can see you friends more. You can pull and date without having to negotiate it with a partner or partners. You are free! Singledom is not a limiting status, unless you want to see it that way.
A. Bachelorette "People are inherently evil, but very, very funny" - Joe Orton. Edited 19 Dec 09, 5:27 PM by Ms_Tytania | ||
| 19 Dec 09, 6:32 PM penwiggle UK(CB), 5 yrs |
This is a good point as there are some well defined safety measures that people use when meeting for the first time. I think we need a thread on the subject. You say Ouch like it's a bad word. | ||
| 27 Dec 09, 6:58 PM eloesa UK, 7 yrs      |
I know what you mean about going to clubs as a single person.. I have to force my self to go , but usually end up talking to friends and having a lovely evening!.. There is the other side of things tho' in that, if every one decided not to go because they felt like a voyeur , then there's no hope at all of meeting anyone else who may have been single and gone....
They say, the best men are moulded out of faults; And, for the most, become much more the better for being a little bad. | ||
| 27 Dec 09, 9:54 PM relaxed1 UK(BR), 6 yrs |
It would be wrong for anyone to believe that their single status defines then as as person, but it undoubtedly leads to judgements being made by others. I think it is *possibly* easier for a single female to go to a club, or an unattached submissive than a dominant (certainly than a male dominant), especially if the female has friends who are also going. In that sense, it seems to me that the kinky singles forum provides a very valuable resources, and it would be interesting to see whether the forum is used - or whether it is perceived - as a means of just meeting other singles, for friendship rather than play or a relationship. The clubs I have been to have been enormous fun, but I have been there as part of a couple; I would find it awkward to go as a singleton I think, much less with the hope/expectation of meeting a potential partner (unless of course I had had some contact with them first). "We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars" - Oscar Wilde | ||
| 30 Dec 09, 8:29 AM Educated_Savage UK, 2 yrs |
I am a success. All these years I have eaten and not been eaten. |
. But as a single man I don't feel that comfortable attending clubs but maybe eloesa is right and if no singles go then all the singles stay single.