Posted by hunny_Beez on Tue 27 Apr 04, 3:51 PM to hunny_Beez's blog.
Hard Limits, Moral, Physical and Emotional.
Firstly I would like to point out these are just my thoughts and ideas and not in any way am I trying to make judgements or imply this is how others should see limits.
I am talking about hard limits. Things that are in no way negotiable. I have many soft limits that at this moment in time I am not ready to explore, and I may never get to the stage where I am ready to explore them, or Master may never wish to include them in our lives.
For me they fall into two types.
Moral No children No animals No exploitation of others Everything I do must be fully consensual with all involved.
Physical and Emotional I have grouped these together as they tend to blend into one.
I have a very weak stomach. This is a physical part of me. So scat is on my hard limits list.
I see nothing wrong with those who play scat. And if I did not have a very weak stomach I would not have this on my hard limits list, though it is something that I have no desire to try and don't think it would ever come into our lives. Now this is were I find it hard to differentiate from physical and emotional, Master and I discussed this. I said that because I would vomit and become physically very ill that the limit was physical. Master then argued that if I was tied down He could still go ahead and play scat ignoring my physical state (I would like to add that Master would never do that this was for discussion purposes only). I pointed out that I would “safe word”, and Master said that in safe wording I was being emotional not physical. My argument was that I would most probably vomit before I could get the safe word out and so it was physical…lol…round and round we go.
Back to hard limits. Again my weak stomach makes it impossible to do anything that involves vomiting. I am gagging now just typing this…lets move on. I am metaphobic and this is not easy.
I'm fat, unfit over 40 and not very supple. So I am not able to get into many of the weird and wonderful positions for bondage and play. Mentally I would love to be able to do these things but physically they are impossible and so they have to go on my hard limit not by choice. Some years ago I dislocated and broke my shoulder. This has left me with a weak shoulder and adding to the fact that I'm fat, unfit etc, many suspension techniques are unfortunately out.
Now it could be argued that these are not hard limits. If I lost mega amounts of weight and got very fit then some of these things may be possible. Well these are my hard limits now. If a miracle happens and I lose weight and get fit then the list would have to be revised…cant see it happening though I'm to bloody happy and content with my life.
Now my weak stomach makes me have a problem with cum. But I do not have this on my hard limit. As it is something that varies depending on my mind set, Master is very good at reading me, and is also very considerate in helping me to clean any off me reasonably quickly after sex. Gosh a submissive that does not swallow, how bad am I beat me with a big stick… gosh yes please.
I have been told in the past that I must not be submissive to my Master as I do not swallow his cum…I must be rejecting him…ahhhhhh. Back to the real world.
Now at this moment in time I cant think of anything else on my “Hard limit list” as you may have guessed there is no written list it is just something that both Master and I know and agree on for me.
There is also ….splosh…sorry I cant do it. I would love to be able to have cream covering my body or to lick chocolate spread of slug (slug is Master's penis) but I just cant I have tried it several times…but I end up gagging and running to the shower to clean up. I'm not sure if it would be on my hard limit list, as it is something that I would try again in the future if the time and circumstances and my mind set was right, so no its not on my hard limit list.
Gosh I am waffling aren't I.
And finally i would like to thank Master for my lovely new pressie. I have had so much fun playing solo slalom races around the garden. and pulling it the wrong way around pretending its a pony carriage. gosh its wonderful. i have named it Wilfred Wallace Wheelbarrow. Fred for short.
luvs and hugs hunny
Edited Tue 27 Apr 04, 3:58 PM by hunny_Beez
