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| Mon 16 Nov 09, 4:45 PM LittleWolf_909 UK, 3 yrs |
Hullo there! I haven't really posted much here at all, more of a lurker really. But I have something that I think some of you lovely Ladies and Gentlemen can help me with.
My Master and I occasionally have little challenges between us, either physical or mental. High-stake prizes are given to the winner (For example, the last time I lost a challenge I ended up serving as his maid in public.)
There is a new challenge on the table. Master would find it rather amusing if I tried to dominate him. He has been curious about what it would be like if the tables were turned. My problem is that I don't have a dominant bone in my body. It doesn't help matters that I'm a tiny, lithe little thing, where as he is very tall and very strong.
Any tips on how to be dominant would be greatly appreciated, as I really don't know where to start. Puppy Howls and Whimpers. Little Wolf. | ||
| 16 Nov 09, 4:48 PM jules9 UK(CH), 3 yrs     |
There's a difference between Topping someone and Doming them. Is it definitely Doming that he wants you to do? Are you going to take complete control of the relationship? Or is it a play thing, you'll Top him in certain ways for a set period of time? XxX | ||
| 16 Nov 09, 4:54 PM LittleWolf_909 UK, 3 yrs |
I will be topping him for one scene. He is far too dominant, and myself too submissive for it to be a permanent role reversal. | ||
| 16 Nov 09, 4:57 PM RopeTopUK UK(N), 3 yrs |
Body size is not an issue. My boy is a lithe little elf and yesterday I let him dominate a big muscular guy. He did a great job! Don't let your own insecurities get in the way, just act out a dominant fantasy. Use language, clothing, props etc. to help you get into the right headspace. | ||
| 16 Nov 09, 5:01 PM Sadistia UK(NG), 10 yrs  |
I have some questions. Maybe not for you to tell us but for yourself. Do you want to do this? What will you get out of it? Is the prize worth it? What are the limits? Will you be able to stop if you want to? Have you ruled out actual real person help? Could you do this at a club and us all come along? (I think what was already asked re Topping / Domming) Is it physical control that you need to take or mental, is it physical interaction or getting compliance to instructions you need to get? Sx
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| 16 Nov 09, 5:03 PM Lady_Lucan UK(L), 4 yrs |
Why does your profile state that you are *looking for* a Master? All very confusing. They that love not Tobacco & Boies were fooles. | ||
| 16 Nov 09, 5:07 PM LittleWolf_909 UK, 3 yrs |
Do you want to do this? I am very curious, even though I'm not sure if I'll manage What will you get out of it? I guess it will be rather liberating being able to control a man as wild as my Master. Is the prize worth it? Definitely! What are the limits? We haven't gotten that far in the discussion yet, he's leaving me to think about things first Will you be able to stop if you want to? Yes Have you ruled out actual real person help? Could you do this at a club and us all come along? I am usually rather private when it comes to things like this, so it will be done in the privacy of my own home. | ||
| 16 Nov 09, 5:07 PM Lady_Lucan UK(L), 4 yrs |
Well, it's only one line FFS. Not exactly the work of months to update it, eh?
They that love not Tobacco & Boies were fooles. | ||
| 16 Nov 09, 5:08 PM steelhouse UK(E), 11 yrs |
Make a list of 10 things that you like him doing to you.
Spanking, Bondage, Blindfolds etc, then he has to pick 3 or 4 for your scene.
This can be by choice, or random picking out of a hat.
Then YOU get to do them on HIM for your set period.
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| 16 Nov 09, 5:09 PM LittleWolf_909 UK, 3 yrs |
I haven't been on this site for a *very* long time, so it does need updating. *scurries off to do so* | ||
| 16 Nov 09, 5:10 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
Now there is a question! Ok firstly have a chat, what does he want out of it where would he like it to go etc Then with that info sit down and think what you would like to see him do, think about why, write a little list. If you have the reasoning straight in your head it is going to be far easier for you. If you aren't dominant see it as service topping, he wants you to do it, therefore it doesn't stop you from being submissive. As twue as words spoken under interrogation. |
