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| Fri 13 Nov 09, 5:52 PM tails18 UK(OX), 2 yrs   |
Very general non specific, but I was wondering what everyone, & slaves in particular think about what it takes to be a slave. | |
| 13 Nov 09, 5:57 PM Ms_Valentine UK, 9 yrs |
In its simplest sense, it takes someone who is willing to be the owner, then the submissive must be willing to give over all controls to said owner. Once ownership is in place, the slave exists. All else, to my way of thinking is just what is decided by the owner about what is expected of the slave. They may allow them some rights, limits or they may not. Consequently each slave and owner will be different and each set of requirements and expectations will also be different. There is no one size fits all system with slaves having to be like this or that, it is all done to what the owner wants of their slave. 24/7 subs and slaves can and do live similar lives, it is only the concept of 'ownership' which separates them. Edited 13 Nov 09, 5:58 PM by Ms_Valentine | |
| 13 Nov 09, 5:58 PM WykD_Dave UK(DE), 9 yrs |
Though I'm not on this side of the equation I predict that you will get a lot of replies on this and that they will for the most part be different from each other. This is due to it being very personal to each one. Like so very much in BDSM D/s or whatever people modify and mould it to suit their own desires. This is a good thing and it would be a boring world if we were all the same. I think you will get a lot of opinion. If you want a definition there probably isn't one that will stick and cover everyone. Lovely sunshine girl | |
| 13 Nov 09, 6:02 PM condemned UK(M), 11 yrs |
It is quite an undertaking to make.I think most subs have fantasised about being a slave at some point but for most it remains just that,a fantasy.Reality would be very tough! | |
| 13 Nov 09, 6:16 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
If my girl and I were to go this far I think th essence would be simple. She would rely entirely on me to supply her needs. I would never focus on mine - because she would strive to supply them. Patience is bitter - but its fruit is sweet. | |
| 13 Nov 09, 6:24 PM Conan_The_Librarian UK(S), 3 yrs |
Roy Batty knew what it was to be a slave, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a_saUN4j7Gw What appears to be coming at you is really coming from you. | |
| 13 Nov 09, 9:26 PM slutling_angel 4 yrs |
I have questioned myself over this time and time again. I am perceived as a slave but I can't see how or why. I am definitely no house slave as I think in any relationship chores, should be shared. Am I a sex slave? Erm no I guess not only to my Master. I don't rely totally on my Master, for anything to be honest. I am not collared, so therefore I am not owned in that sense. I can walk away should I ever want to.
I am as confused as the OP I have always thought myself to be a masochist sub. *shrugs*
“It is always by way of pain one arrives at pleasure.” | |
| 13 Nov 09, 9:40 PM x_flaire_x UK(OX), 10 yrs |
GENERAL DISCLAIMER: The following are personal views and do not represent an absolute truth or correct interpretation. It's about a need to serve without the need of reward - be that reward sexual or play in nature. It is a service entirely for the benefit of the Dominant. It is a 24/7 commitment to the authority of another and the rules and boundaries imposed. EDIT: And as Ms Valentine remarks '24/7 subs and slaves can and do live similar lives, it is only the concept of 'ownership' which separates them.'
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Edited 13 Nov 09, 9:42 PM by x_flaire_x | |
| 14 Nov 09, 12:31 AM Alayna 2 yrs |
. Edited 26 Feb 10, 1:12 AM by Alayna | |
| 14 Nov 09, 1:36 AM WykD_Dave UK(DE), 9 yrs |
Funny I've noticed your posts round the forums now and again and it never occurred to me you were a slave. I thought you were a cheerful, sometimes humorous, kinky, perverted submissive who was almost fatally in love with her Mr. The s word never popped into my head. Funny how people have different perceptions. Lovely sunshine girl | |
| 14 Nov 09, 1:58 AM othyim NL, 3 yrs |
For me, it means that I could never leave him by my own free will any longer..
I've simply lost the capabilaty to do so. Now I can be apart, I am very able to be on my own, to stand on my own two feet and to live my life as it is. Jobs and kids. I dont cling, I dont claim. (The nice thing is, he DOES claim me though.... smiles) But his will, his morals, his rules, are the ones that are there, always. I'm no longer able to disobey. Or resist. It would really be quite a struggle to do so.. Oh, and I have this deep need to make things as easy as they can be, for him. Certainly not disappoint him, be a burden, an attention whore, a brat... nag, name it. I want to make him feel good. To ease him... whatever form that would take. It can be cause he gets peace by hurting me. Or simple things like dressing the way he likes, or cooking his favorite dishes. Or just let him talk for hours... As a slave I'm very much a partner. Probably more than I would ever be able to be in vanilla. Bottom line, for us: His wants come before my needs. In giving him that right I became a slave.
Edited 14 Nov 09, 2:19 AM by othyim |
