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NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) & BDSM (66)

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11 Nov 09, 10:15 PM
Miss_Despotic
UK(M), 5 yrs

IndelibleMarker wrote:

Well... Obviously, because NLP pulls in other areas that behavioural psychology doesn't cover such as; mirroring, rapport building, pacing and leading, framing, memory waypointing, anchoring, words and interpretation, internal conflicting, phobia strategy, creativity strategy blah.

Behavioural psychology is just one small portion of NLP.

You'd make a good salesman

Edited 11 Nov 09, 10:16 PM by Miss_Despotic

11 Nov 09, 11:18 PM
For_Your_Pleasure
UK, 6 yrs

Heres me starting this post and i still need to experience NLP............

Somebody out there take me!

11 Nov 09, 11:36 PM
fussyone
9 yrs

I'm interested in learning NLP when I have finished with these other areas. It has always interested me, not for bdsm purposes though.

12 Nov 09, 12:05 AM
Joran_h
UK(LS), 6 yrs

MichaelCane wrote:
I know two or three girls that have had men try to make them cum on demand! They have all admitted to me that it was bollox!! They all faked!!!

*chuckle* I am a gay dom and am quite fringe in that I am what is often termed a "HypnoDom". I have indeed used altered mind states to make guys cum on command, and you can tell when a guy is faking it for obvious reasons. My boys don't.

MichaelCane wrote:
They just wanted to make their arrogant DomTwat feel good!

Oh aren't sweeping generalisations great?! -- Joran_h

12 Nov 09, 12:11 AM
Joran_h
UK(LS), 6 yrs

One thing I would say is that for me, being rather niche and my kink being such a trust-dependant one (not that having rope round your neck doesn't require trust, to be fair), I dislike NLP's commonly-percieved usages.

For me, I build up a trust relationship with my boys and give them the experience of a lifetime because of it. I could use NLP techniques to convince them to trust me earlier, but I don't, at least not consciously.

Unfortunately, I am a natural NLPer (yes I agree brand-names blah blah, I mean I automatically use techniques people would consider NLP without consciously choosing to) and so people do find it easy to trust me in-person, and sometimes it does come to a self-check to ensure I'm not being too "underhand" in how I gained their trust. Unfortunately a lot of people who are trained in NLP and similar fields do not do this self-check and that is where it gets a bad name usually.

12 Nov 09, 6:27 PM
polly_uk
UK, 7 yrs

Danbuc wrote:
[ And behavioural psychology needs to be rebranded as NLP for what reason?

Thank god someone said that ! Something i agree with in the whole of this rather odd "one upmanship" thread. Go spend a few years of your life studying psychology and then come back and review NLP and maybe see it, as I rather cynically do, as a reinvention of the wheel for financial gain .

Kind regards,

Polly

Edited to add most of the terms such as mirroring , anchoring et al all derive from cognitive behavioural psychology ....a rose by any other name.........

"Indifference to me, is the epitome of evil. Be a sound not an echo"

Edited 12 Nov 09, 6:30 PM by polly_uk