Switching (92)

I've never really had a problem with switches. What annoys me (even though I'm not one) is those that think you just haven't met anyone dominant enough (usually them) when you say you're a switch.

If you have needs in both directions then why not. As long as you're not in a long term relationship and it's not likely to cause problems then just be yourself.

The stigma with regards to switching is generally from people that don't really understand what drives us to be Dominant or submissive, or indeed that someone can have both needs. Sure for some people switching is a more of a fantasy, but whatever your reasons there is no reason why you shouldn't explore. There's enough stigma attached to the lifestyle, if we worried about that we wouldn't be here in the first place.

Braondra

Edited 9 Nov 09, 2:57 PM by Braondra

~The Brightest light casts the darkest shadows.~

I started out in the scene as a sub...quickly realised i'm actually a switch...also not a surprise to those that knew me.

I've come across a few that don't understand it, wouldn't say there is too much of a stigma, but there is on the odd occassion someone who is a little dismissive. Hey that's their loss, their less open imagination. I have my cake and eat it.....(well would if i wasn't gluten free) but you get my drift. I enjoy my switchery, i am happy with who and i am and constantly find new things about my switchyness. It is easier to do when single, i'd have to agree there, wouldn't be good to suddenly spring it on someone within a relationship.

Nothing is set in stone, one day i might give up one or either side of switchery (god forbid both!! )but there is nothing wrong with exploring all those labels out there, top/bottom/dom/sub yadda yadda...switchery can be a fluid thing between just two people too, muchly fun ....

Less worry, more just try it....to hell with those that don't/won't understand, as others have said, it's your life, just live it how you want to.

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An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind. - Mahatma Gandhi "Build a man a fire, and he'll be warm for a day. Set a man on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life." - Terry Pratchett.

fungirl wrote: Who wouldn't want to switch .... I mean, hello, best of both worlds ... call me greedy but I just want to have as much fun as I can

Too true. Not greedy 'thou. just living life in true stereo not mono Pleasures

"Yeah I like Kinky stuff,dirty dark pervy stuff,weird sex. And You ?"

But I really, really have a problem with some of the posts on threads like this where people imply that those who don't switch are "living life in mono" or are lacking in imagination or somehow missing out.

If those who don't switch had a thread writing about how they had much more fun than switches, the outcry would be immense, don't you think? All that stuff has stopped now, or if it does rear its head, it's stamped on pretty quickly - and rightly so. But these days it seems that threads like this garner an element of reverse snobbery, and surely that's not acceptable either.

In my opinion, everyone should just do what they want to do, and get on with it - but also shouldn't imply their way is a "better" way, whether that's switching or not.

So do I, as it happens. Thank you for saying that, it needed saying.

The whole 'switchers have more fun' line should only ever be used as a joke - me thinks. Yeah, we may have more options, we can see both dominants and submissives as potential playmates and partners, but that's as far as it goes.

The point is that all, sub, switch, dominant, be accepted for what they are.

The antidote to whinge threads??

What he said!

~The Brightest light casts the darkest shadows.~