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| 24 Dec 09, 7:50 PM fitzcaraldo UK(BA), 6 yrs   |
The definitive answer . Fitzcaraldo
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| 24 Dec 09, 10:53 PM Purrverse US, 7 yrs |
I've messed up before, thinking I knew what my submissive wanted/needed and getting it wrong, messing up a tie, whatever. I find an apology is a good start, and asking what I can do to make amends helpful as well. "I can't tell if you're playing some kind of feminazi mind fuck game on me or if you're trying to seduce me." -Sex and Death 101 | ||
| 25 Dec 09, 12:00 AM Doghouse_Reilly UK(MK), 6 yrs |
Depends what you messed up but given the advances in forensic science your best bet is to call the emergency services immediately, do your best to make the place look presentable before the ambulance arrives and try to sound like it was an honest mistake trying something new. They'll be able to work out the time of death to within a few minutes so if you drag your feet they'll smell a rat. Also the last thing you want to do is get caught disposing of a body or give the plod any reason to think you had a decent idea of the risks involved. If you can keep your head while all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you, you might want to stop waving that axe around. Edited 25 Dec 09, 12:01 AM by Doghouse_Reilly | ||
| 25 Dec 09, 12:32 PM ToakReon  UK(RH), 12 yrs |
Fucking up is part of the learning experience. If you've never done anything wrong, guess what? You're in a coma. I would also argue that a dom that makes a mistake and then tries to pretend (sometimes even to themselves) that the mistake never happened and that they are perfect is going to fool no-one, and is likely to lose the respect of those who know them (including, again, themselves). However, whether recognizing the mistakes made actually results in some "mistake related interaction" of some sort between dom and sub is surely a matter for the dynamic between the two. I could envisage dynamics where this happens, to the satisfaction of both parties, and others where both people involved would rather mistakes were simply "ignored and passed over". Toak FEMALE, BONDAGE-FRIENDLY MODEL SOUGHT. I am seeking to update my "How To" shibari bondage pictures (see my profile pics, the clothed blonde tied in red and black) with a model more "enthusiastic" about BDSM, and who is happy to be photographed nude. MEMO ME if this is you. | ||
| 26 Dec 09, 12:05 AM Elegantly_Wasted 8 yrs |
Doghouse's advice on safely disposing of the bodies. I'll have to remember that. Anyway, onto the point, I think it is ridiculous that "dominants"(sorry, should have been a capital D) wouldn't apologise. In my opinion if you've messed up, you apologise. I'd respect someone far more for an apology than if they pretend it hadn't happened and brushed it under the carpet. I'm not suggesting that a Dom should apologise all the time for anything and everything, but you apologise and move on! Those people with less of a god complex can say sorry with out it diminishing domliness. "Put your Ego's down - I've told you before not to play with them...." |
