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| Fri 30 Oct 09, 9:40 PM MissKimberley NL, 8 yrs      |
Quick ponderings on the way home tonight. Do dominants have a problem with authority? Ie. they themselves prefer to be in a position of authority in most cases, quite often this is not limited to the bedroom. Does this lead to conflicts in the workplace or within a group of friends for instance? Do you struggle with authority? Can you or do you separate your perhaps natural ways from what is expected of you, socially or professionally? “During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act” - George Orwell | ||
| 30 Oct 09, 10:17 PM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
One of the best things ever put on the net: http://www.the-firm.org/dt.htm
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| 30 Oct 09, 10:27 PM Lady_Susan UK, 5 yrs |
Have no problem at all with appropriate authority, very law abiding, good relationship with my boss. Having said that, I really and truly do not put up with people who take the piss, or try to bully me. 'Unhappy one, love no one again; for a dark destroying angel comes with poisoned sword behind thy love.' - Richter | ||
| 30 Oct 09, 10:36 PM Lady_Lucan UK(L), 4 yrs |
I do my best to override my pronounced anti-authoritarian bent, but I really cannot abide fools, particularly if they have been granted some arbitrary and/or undeserved control over me. Perhaps unsurprisingly, I have had a number of run-ins with bosses - including those attempting to win my collusion in their sexual harassment, fraud and bullying of staff. I have represented my colleagues in disputes on a number of occasions. In addition I was one of the first people in NI to 'divorce' my parents as they refused to sign the release forms to permit me to go to university, despite my having been estranged from them for some time. I regard this aspect of myself as difficult, but ultimately something to be proud of. If you don't stick up for yourself, who else will? They that love not Tobacco & Boies were fooles. | ||
| 30 Oct 09, 10:37 PM pepperpants UK, 3 yrs |
Hell, I struggle with authority and I'm submissive. I doubt it is unique to dominant behavior to find accepting a third party's dominance or authoritarian behavior palatable. | ||
| 30 Oct 09, 10:38 PM RopeTopUK UK(N), 3 yrs |
I work in an environment that has a hierarchy (chain of command, if you like), where I take orders from those above me and give orders to those below me. Usually this is done in a polite way, but the structure is there and there are times when I have to be deferential as well as assertive. | ||
| 30 Oct 09, 10:47 PM Rosalee UK, 7 yrs |
I think this is quite funny too. http://www.the-firm.org/ED.htm
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| 31 Oct 09, 12:08 AM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
Yeah, all of it, really, great stuff. Links to follow. The antidote to whinge threads?? Edited 31 Oct 09, 12:20 AM by Jahc99 | ||
| 31 Oct 09, 12:14 AM Deviant_Bitch UK(G), 6 yrs |
No, I can find it hard to take orders from someone especially when they are just a idiot or a little hitler. I do follow the law and would not tell my boss to fuck off just because I was asked to do my job. However, I would not be treated in a way in which I was not happy about. Hope this makes sense I have had a few hehe. Wii's are like buses you wait months for one and then two come along. | ||
| 31 Oct 09, 8:50 PM MissKimberley NL, 8 yrs |
How does that relate to authority in a normal situation? I'm not talking about people who are so far up their arses they only do something for money, consider themselves the most important or whinge about how hard it is to be dominant and how badly they are treated. I'm more particularly interested in whether dominants overall struggle with, for instance, having a boss at work, whether they had problems with teachers etc.
I personally get on fine with the owner, he's a nice chap and the director (female) I tend to get on with well, too. I dislike too much interference with how I run my departments though, I think that the people who have to do the job (ie my staff) quite often have the best insights into what works and what doesn't. I don't have problems with authority, ie. I have never been in trouble with police or at work. I have had run ins with teachers in secondary school because I was persistently questioning them on the why's and wherefore's of things. A girl in Catholic grammar school wasn't supposed to have too much of an opinion “During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act” - George Orwell | ||
| 31 Oct 09, 8:54 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
I have known a good few dominant men who have to run the show, run their own business or be the MD of the company etc. I'm pretty sure that's partly their natural dominance that requires it. I'm the opposite. Although I've a very successful career it is in a sense in service, obeying and pleasing. I do think for some of us the D or s flows into the rest of our lives. |
