Any Chance Of A 'Friendship' Setting? (29)

Do I get excused if people complain due to me being sarcastic?

edited to add the smiley

"We're all living in a freakshow Man, it's called life. Buy a ticket and enjoy the ride." Foamy The Squirrel

Edited 27 Oct 09, 10:06 PM by Der_Morgenstern

The easy way is to remove their advert.

If they are really looking for friendship then my original suggestion of a friendship area makes sense.

"We're all living in a freakshow Man, it's called life. Buy a ticket and enjoy the ride." Foamy The Squirrel

Personally I agree with both of you.

If I could stop wanky men sending wanky kneel bitch memos I would. As a bloke I know how these colour womens attitude towards all men , not just the wanky ones. I've long thought these idiots just get in the way of the many decent reasonable men to be found here, who are genuinely looking.

I do also think there are (an boy I know I'm going to have to be careful how I phrase this )people, including women, who perhaps don't realise the full implications of joining a BDSM site, ie there might be quite a few people who are looking for something a little stronger than say company.

Do I know what the answer is? Nope, not really. Wish I did, figure this out I'd be a genius.

"Yeah I like Kinky stuff,dirty stuff,weird sex. And You ?"

Edited 27 Oct 09, 11:04 PM by pleasureswitch

But this isn't a dating site. Or at least it is partly, but only partly. It's also many other things and many people come on here to blog or debate in the forums rather than hunt for a partner, for example. And anyone who fills in a profile on here should surely be aware of the different aspects this site has, including the possibility of attracting memos from people looking for play or sex. It's not like you can't see what the site is like before you sign up as IC is not locked to non-members.

My ad's switched on just now as I'm sort of looking. It was off during all my last relationship, yet my ex left his ad switched on not because he was still looking but because he either genuinely forgot to disable it or didn't know how to. And now mine's back on and I've stared very explicitly what I don't want, it doesn't stop those men trolling me. I block them, as it's the only option. To be fair, it's not that obvious how to switch an ad off - it could be made so with a little tweaking in the coding.

For those who just haven't switched their ad off because they're loved up, as someone else suggested let the community vote with a button - enough hits and it disables the ad.

Fair point.

Also if tweeking the settings helps, yeah lets do it, but I don't think this would address some much more deep seated problems.

"Yeah I like Kinky stuff,dirty stuff,weird sex. And You ?"

lush_london wrote: Well I am only looking half heartedly, Not sure if there is a button for that However I do keep my profile as a live ad, as I think someone told me that if you don't do this people who want to find you for non personal ad reasons cannot see you unless your profile is up as an ad. I might be confused about this, maybe Admin could clarify?

As long as they know your nick on here they can use the search function on the main page.

"We're all living in a freakshow Man, it's called life. Buy a ticket and enjoy the ride." Foamy The Squirrel

Or have the add system seach for the phrase 'not looking' in the profile and exclude those profiles from the add searches automatically. The profile could have a banner added saying 'contains the words not looking' for the users information so they know they are exluded.

- Chris

Submission is giving someone the ability to destroy You, but trusting them enough not to.

Then there would be no issue. hehe.

Child of Chaos.
Sheffield Under 35's Munch

Edited 28 Oct 09, 8:58 AM by harley_quimm

The problem with that is that a lot of people who aren't looking won't necessarily use those words. They might put only something like "now owned by Master X, not interested in anything except friendships".

The only foolproof system would be a community response.

That get's my vote!

Polite memos (no need for sarcasm) from the people affected to people who've left their ad on accidentally. If there are any complaints about the memos, just point them to this post.

Admin

Remember: it's only a website!

Edited 28 Oct 09, 10:14 AM by Admin