Posted by fussyone
on Tue 27 Oct 09, 12:02 PM to fussyone's blog.
The Alan Carr way yet, it still isn't as easy as I thought it would be. Its like a fight in the mind. Just have one - yet his book says don't even have one, not a sniff.
I want to be free of this addiction - in fact I am since yesterday but, I would also slice the legs off my grandmother for a fag! And yet like the book says if you have one you sign yourself up not just to one but to years of the shite!
I'm a reasonable person, I have control of things, I can have control of this.
| 27 Oct 09, 12:07 PM picksy UK(PL), 4 yrs  |
It is a slog , ten years on and it still catches me ! See someone dragging away on a ciggy enjoying it . Good luck to ya tis a dear old habit that does you no good , but i know its a bitch to kick . I have kleptomania ; when it gets bad i take something for it . | ||
| 27 Oct 09, 12:07 PM Visualize UK(CV), 5 yrs |
Its a bugger isnt it. I gave up for one day recently, although I know I can do longer - I gave up for four years a few years ago, but the time just isn't right for me right now. What I found helped me when I gave up for four years was to "enjoy" the craving in a self denial masochistic way rather than fighting it. Very best of luck, V. The past is history, tomorrow is a mystery, the present is a gift. | ||
| 27 Oct 09, 12:23 PM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs      |
Thinking of you! Really hard. Good luck. Patience is bitter - but its fruit is sweet. | ||
| 27 Oct 09, 12:50 PM misfit UK, 3 yrs |
I used to smoke 20 a day and when I was at my lowest financial ebb I decided I would go an hour til my next one and then when that hour came I would forgo for another hour. I have been moving that hour forward ever since. I would not say I have much willpower but it worked for me. I guess you just have to find what works for you. I found having no funds pretty integral to the whole situation. I think if I would have had funds I would have found it much more difficult. Good luck Best M Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it. | ||
| 27 Oct 09, 1:03 PM pleasureswitch UK(E), 6 yrs |
Good Luck ! Yes it is hard. Yes it is tough . Yes it is worth it. Do you really want to pay loads of money for an addictive, often fatal drug that makes you look older and smelly? Others can and have. So can you. "Yeah I like Kinky stuff,dirty stuff,weird sex. And You ?" | ||
| 27 Oct 09, 1:15 PM DrMajolica UK(NR), 6 yrs |
The trick I used on myself, was to think not that I was denying myself something, but that I was giving myself something. Make it a positive, not a denial, use whatever self-righteous term you wish, to get you through, youre "giving yourself clean air, healthy lungs".. whatever, it doesnt matter, its a springboard. Once youre over the hump, its easier. Over fifteen years, not gone back. Good luck. I think too much, therefore I am a bit of a twat. | ||
| 27 Oct 09, 2:07 PM misfit UK, 3 yrs |
That is interesting and I never thought of this. I treated it as a denial but one that would only last an hour as the idea of giving up seemed too big a step. I would then just move the hour on. The idea of giving up for an hour seemed easier to handle mentally. Ditto to over 15 years M Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it. | ||
| 27 Oct 09, 2:28 PM DrMajolica UK(NR), 6 yrs |
I think the "step" idea might work as well as the "play a trick on yourself" scheme. The idea came from a a magazine article I'd read just prior to giving up, and it clicked. But really... whatever works! I think too much, therefore I am a bit of a twat. | ||
| 27 Oct 09, 4:29 PM LittleMissEvil 4 yrs |
I am sure you'll do it  Some people say i am evil, i have no idea why they think that. | ||
| 28 Oct 09, 6:53 PM gollard UK, 8 yrs |
Ah wossyfone, bin there done that tried every trick in the book, might have a couple of things to to try again next time. forget about your grandmother's legs - they're too hard to light. All that stuff about one day, hour, 5 minutes at a time does help and every hour gets easier. That one fag cadged off someone at work, or off a so called M8 in the pub is a bad move, tell the guy's at work not to, - you will hate them for weeks but in the end, thank them. One of these smoking cesation councilor types told me some thing that made a lot of sense, DO NOT BUY ANY MORE, might sound obvious or the last thing that you intend to do, but when you have been having one a night at work off tom, dick, harry or sue DO NOT FEEL THAT YOU OWE THEM ONE AND BUY 10 to share, crash or flash. because you will feel that even if you give the other 8 to the "mate" who has been giving you one a shift for fourteen days, it's just one out of the packet, "I only had one" "I can buy a packet and only have one" - yeah as if. The other bit of head bending advice I can give you is something that applies to all addictions/"habits", is that you have them until you replace them! Find something that you crave more than a cigarette, I am fairly certain that if you joined the smoking police you could be sufficient replacement therapy for any 40 a day smoker - find your own replacement! btw good luck |
