Protocol and etiquette? (39)

But as a submissive or interacting with a submissive its very nice to have a framework a well defined way of interacting that protocol and ritual can encompass.Its comforting to have boundaries.

And I agree with all of it. There's a definite attraction in roles; in being able to please without having to be pushy or worry about whether one is doing the right thing. 'Tis pity such FemDom events are rare.

Reason is and ought to be the slave of the passions and can never pretend to any other office than to serve and obey them.
David Hume

Ofcourse, any submissive needs boundaries, very clear ones at that. But what I often see in protocol situations is that the dominant accepts it as carte blanche to do whatever they like to whatever sub they happen to chance upon, treating them in ways I find very offensive. I am not saying that's what happens at all events or parties but I have seen it often and am quite wary of it - because what I find acceptable another might not and vice versa.

That's why I enjoy it in a one to one situation best, there are very clear rules so there are no unpleasant surprises. At a limited numbers party that is also possibly if the protocol/rules/rituals are made abundantly clear in advance to all participants, including the potential consequences of any breach of protocol.

ETA and offenders are dealt with instantly and consistently

“During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act” - George Orwell

Edited 1 Nov 09, 2:15 PM by MissKimberley

I agree, when a private party is held, where protocol is to be part of it, ALL should be advised and aware of acceptable behaviour/protocol... both dominants and submissives - I can't think of anyone that I would invite who wouldn't be able to follow the required protocol and behave themselves.

"Truth is stranger than fiction."
Q. What are the components of a good dynamic? A. The mutual desire to share ourselves with each other. (If you don't want to share yourself with me, don't offer yourself to me.)

General good manner is always a welcome trend of course but, not necessarily defines a good sub. Whether the sub has previous experience or not, is the potentiality that I can see in him/her that makes me interested in taking him/her under my training.

From that moment on it is my training that defines proper protocol & etiquette and therefore comparisons to me are irrelevant. My dynamics are mostly D/s (and when possible M/s) and less SM and therefore establishing protocol & proper etiquette (in private or public domain) is crucial in my relationship of Power Exchange. I do value indeed the presentation (not the mere appearance) of a well behave sub (and by well behave I refer to mainly observing how such sub relate to his/her dominant and how he/she interact with O/others in the presence or not of her/his owner). Politeness is only part of the equation to me. And in that sense, I do think that the behaviour of the sub does reflect indeed the persona of his/her Domina.

But then, there will be Dommes that I do not share with their values, behaviours or lifestyle, so my 'judgment' of a strong established etiquette e protocol dynamic is certainly not base on my personal likes or dislikes, but on the quality of D/s interaction I can observe within two people and the way they interact with O/others too. The rest to me is plain moralising as W/we all have our taste of what is beautiful to see or not, and what are W/we aiming to achieve in our personal relationships.

p.s. I read with real pleasure some of the contribution given above...

Be Safe and at Ease with your Nature...
Mdm.Masha [The DRAGON KING's Daughter]

Edited 3 Nov 09, 1:08 AM by MadamEmme

why is there only one monopolies and mergers commission ??

Edited 2 Nov 09, 10:40 AM by chastehouseboy

It is vital to me for a male sub to have good manners and a basic knowledge of traditional etiquette. Those who are not so familiar with etiquette could be trained.

If he behaved in a manner which was disrespectful to me, then yes, of course it matters! If I thought he might behave in a disrespectful way to others, I simply would not give him the opportunity.

Yes, good manners and etiquette are important to me at all times.

Lady Emma