Posted by Ariane on Fri 23 Oct 09, 9:10 PM to Ariane's blog.
Do you ever look through sub adverts and think you're wandering through someone else's fantasies?
Not that I've had time for a sub in the past year, but I find myself entertaining the idea a bit recently. However, trying to fill some of the criteria laid out in a lot of the adverts, and even the names used, sounds like too much work. Who is serving whom here?
I'm 5' 11" and walk everywhere, so heels are a very occasional thing at best. I'm comfortable in trousers, although I might wear a dress if I feel like it. Stockings and tights are nightmarish for me though, nylon allergy.
But more importantly, I don't think of myself as something to pander to someone else's fantasy. Domme is in my nature, just ask any of my crew. Being met with expectations that I should wear my thigh high boots sounds more sub than Domme to me. I do what I feel like, and expect the sub to fit in with my mood.
Does that make me a bitch? Maybe. But that's WYSIWYG. I am me. Desire me for me, or move on.
Maybe it's just the eyestrain from reading too many fantasist ads...
