| 27 Oct 09, 7:49 AM Miss_Hardy UK(E), 5 yrs   |
Seems this weblog and the thoughts behind it struck a nerve with someone, they now don't want to be associated with me. Oh well, think it says more about them than it does about me.
"Have people always been this angry? I've got this really funny idea that before the internet people would just write FUCK YOU! and attach it to pigeons" - Russell Howard | |
| 2 Nov 09, 11:48 PM blacksheepboy UK(CR), 4 yrs |
Late reply, but what the hell - I'm in an IC mood, and slightly inebriated, so: Personally, no, I wouldn't lower my standards for the sake of kink. The (very few) people on the scene with whom I've been associated are very dear to me - and exceptional not just for their kinkiness. In one case, a relationship didn't work out, maybe because we weren't as compatible as we thought at first, but she meant a lot to me, and still does. There's nothing wrong with 'play' (it can be great fun), but it's no substitute for a complete relationship. (Edited for brevity) I hate to advocate drugs, alcohol, violence and insanity to anyone, but they've always worked for me - Hunter S. Thompson. Edited 3 Nov 09, 12:06 AM by blacksheepboy | |
| 3 Nov 09, 12:13 PM Ms_Tytania 7 yrs |
Well, I can't, for the life of me, overlook chemistry. and age, looks, etc, are very relevant, but not for the obvious ageist/arm candy reasons, but because they give people context and a background. If somebody isn't compatible with my outlook in life and lifestyle in general, AND I find sexy on top of that, then it's a no-no. My tastes have evolved, but everybody's tastes evolve. If anything, I'm pickier since I discovered the scene than I used to be, but age has something to do with that too. To paraphrase Miss Hardy, if you can't imagine taking that newly met person to a gig/star-trek convention/ramble in the countryside/trotskist meeting... or anywhere that is significant and important to you, then they are probably not the right person and to overlook that would be a recipe for disaster.
I am aware that I'm a very difficult person, live a life that most people my age abandoned in their twenties to "settle down" or never lived, and that finding like minded partners is proving a hard task. But the field research carried out so far is proving interesting and enlightening too, and sometimes fun Late to this interesting thread too... "People are inherently evil, but very, very funny" - Joe Orton. Edited 3 Nov 09, 12:19 PM by Ms_Tytania |
