Posted by Ms_Tytania on Tue 20 Oct 09, 11:22 AM to Ms_Tytania's blog.
It's official: it's Creepy Month Chez Ms Sodomitrix.
I became friends with someone I found on the personals here. No sexual spark as such, but perfect as friends: we are both in creative professions, similar outlook in life, great to chat with in the pub about things that we find interesting. A rare, good find and someone I was looking forward to introduce to my circle of friends.
Then, after a month, and after a recent exchange of emails, all normal and cheerful... out of the blue comes this email:
"I'm afraid i will have to say goodbye. Due to some events in my life over the last few days i (...) am retreating from any form of social networking or contact with the outside world. This is no reflection on you, and you have been a wonderful and good - blah blah blah..."
I reply asking what's wrong with him and if he's ok; the email bounces back to sender; I try his mobile, but it's gone dead.
Nothing, silence.
It must be cos it's Halloween!
| 20 Oct 09, 11:29 AM ThedaVamp UK, 6 yrs |
Ooo! The dwama! Perverted Pederast Puppetmistress Pimp Pandering to the Patriarchy... apparently | ||
| 20 Oct 09, 12:32 PM Lady_Anna_Bradford UK(BD), 5 yrs    |
His wife found out? "If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness | ||
| 20 Oct 09, 12:52 PM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs  |
Could be a whole number of reasons to do with social or work situations. When we meet people it takes a long time generally to get to know who all their friends and associates are.
I tend to keep my interests compartmentalised so that most of my photographer friends don't know my bdsm friends who don't know my political friends who don't know my real ale friends if that makes sense.
"Red hair and black leather is my favourite colour scheme" - Richard Thompson | ||
| 20 Oct 09, 3:02 PM great_writhes 2 yrs |
Perhaps he was falling for you ... but was too frightened to tell incase you rejected him LOL | ||
| 20 Oct 09, 6:15 PM Ms_Tytania 6 yrs |
Yeah, I've thought of some those possibilities. He isn't married as far as I'm aware, nor the kind of person who won't have female friends in case his Missus gets jealous. I have lots of friends like that. And our relationship was clear form the start, we just enjoyed each other's company and mutual interests. The oddest think for me is that his number doesn't work anymore. Makes me think that it's not something he did because of me only, I can't imagine somebody changing their number because of one person. Unless I'm dangerous, which of course could be a possibility  "People are inherently evil, but very, very funny" - Joe Orton. Edited 20 Oct 09, 6:16 PM by Ms_Tytania | ||
| 20 Oct 09, 7:51 PM Silent_Storm UK(M), 6 yrs   |
Hmm, intersting, I read your last sinister blog, but did not post. Some people have shagging mobiles, a bit on the side mobile. A work colleage of mine does the same, goes on a date behind his wifes back. He keeps swapping sim cards so his wife does not find out. You only really have to get that phone and with a bit of reading its easy to find out whats going on. Mobiles cost a tenner and easily disposable. If people where straight with you, upfront, it would save a lot of hassle of being misled. Some peepes just want to get what they want, like a one way street.
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| 20 Oct 09, 7:56 PM Ms_Tytania 6 yrs |
Had there been any sexual intentions in this particular friendship, I wouldn't be surprised if that was the case. But it was just that, friendship. Of course, the other person may have had different plans, but certainly didn't show them. Good to compare notes with others, though. ETA: although, all said and done, I'm inclined to believe that your theory is the most plausible. "People are inherently evil, but very, very funny" - Joe Orton. Edited 20 Oct 09, 8:47 PM by Ms_Tytania | ||
| 20 Oct 09, 8:58 PM Silent_Storm UK(M), 6 yrs |
I'm sure the sexual intentions where based on what HE wants! The person went to a few swingers clubs, and got chucked out. Some peeps, if they are new, cant be trusted, sure its great to meet friends and hook up with them,some peeps are just out to get what they want. Which I find very disapointing. You just had an interesing date, he was a faiure..so what! You have to Move on! *Choose Freedom* Sign up to http://www.caan.org.uk | ||
| 20 Oct 09, 9:24 PM Ms_Tytania 6 yrs |
What's wrong with discussing it here? Thanks.
"People are inherently evil, but very, very funny" - Joe Orton. Edited 20 Oct 09, 9:47 PM by Ms_Tytania | ||
| 26 Jan 11, 10:19 PM misfit UK, 3 yrs |
So he rejected himself. This does not make sense to me. If this was the reason and he was able to cut himself off as he has done then he may have bitten the metaphorical bullet and asked this lovely lady out. Best M Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it. |
Having said that most people have an idea of what I do anyway so my attempts to keep things secret usually fails anyway.