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| 10 Oct 09, 9:18 PM MissKimberley NL, 8 yrs      |
Well, no. Fantasies are fine as they are and give plenty of pleasure, but there are some that might be good to be carried out in reality. Depends on the content of one's fantasies in some cases “During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes a revolutionary act” - George Orwell | ||
| 10 Oct 09, 9:25 PM x_Pan_x UK(E), 8 yrs |
Fantasy is overrated. Give me the real deal. Every time. I can Dominate anyone in my head, but in the real. Man. Nothing compares.
The expedition of my violent love, outrun the pauser reason. | ||
| 10 Oct 09, 9:33 PM Mad_Monk UK(BH), 4 yrs |
These unearthly pleasures are the richer for collaborative involvement. That takes friends, playmates, practise and experience - all features of real lives, disgracefully lived to the full. Embrace and enjoy! "He took a single sip of her pain and found it exquisite" | ||
| 10 Oct 09, 9:35 PM BarbieSlutLoki UK(E), 6 yrs |
Couldnt we just shag Trinity instead The first rule of Brat Club, we don't talk about Brat Club... | ||
| 10 Oct 09, 9:47 PM HIS_subf UK(NE), 3 yrs |
hmmmm... i havent got an mp3 player .. does that count me out  my head is full | ||
| 10 Oct 09, 10:15 PM tanken UK(NR), 2 yrs |
Ah yes, but plans are for doms or dommes
"Red hair and black leather is my favourite colour scheme" - Richard Thompson | ||
| 10 Oct 09, 10:40 PM Incandescence UK, 3 yrs |
God yes. I definatley need reality. When I think about how much more I get from actually doing BDSM than just thinking about it - the closeness, the connection, the buzz, the activity, the thoughts, the spaciness, the visuals, the sounds, the feels, the smells, the endorphins, the emotions, the control, the power, the exhibitionism,, the unexpected, the reactions and responses - I can only imagine all of that when thinking about it. Maybe it's because, as Tanos said, my BDSM fantasies are usually plans, so, whilst they can be a little arousing, they're really not full blown fantasies. I just think that it's difficult to imagine/fantasise about BDSM at that level because of the number of variables. Even thinking about a scene that's similar or identical to one you've done before, and even if it's with the same person in exactly the same surroundings, there are so many factors which can cause it to have a completely different effect/outcome.
Yes please. I'll keep the reality TYVM Pink stripey tigresses GIVE pink stripey bottoms | ||
| 11 Oct 09, 12:28 AM daitchen UK(SE), 9 yrs |
“All men dream; but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity; but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act out otheir dreams with open eyes, to make it possible.” T.E. Lawrence (who was a masochist) | ||
| 11 Oct 09, 1:16 AM Mistress_Avralivia UK(RG), 4 yrs £ |
Yes. "You're going to massage me, but first I'm going to bind you" | ||
| 11 Oct 09, 1:22 AM totallycoverme UK(M), 4 yrs |
I'm not implying anyone here has it (I'm not sure about the validity of the condition in how I think it's an embellished description of social anxiety perhaps)... but a rejection of reality and prefering your fantasys over it is a stong symptom of APD (Avoidant Personality Disorder) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Avoidant_personalit... I've perhaps gone waaaaay off the point but the essence of the original question made me think of this. It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice |
