Posted by KorriLee on Mon 5 Oct 09, 11:00 AM to KorriLee's blog.
I've never been much for posh frocks and handbags..[tho' I admit to owning a huge collection of costume for shows/larp/re-fests and storytelling and I feel comfortable wearing them at any time]
I can also see and understand how Dommes/Doms might like their subs in tatters, streaked in dirty running makeup and covered in what ever happens to take their fancy at the time..
However..right now Im wearing tight grubby work pants and boots..my red hairs unbrushed and contains bits of straw from the byre..I have a loose baggy grey woolie and my pirate hat perched atop the lot...I also have a lingering scent of warm horse on my hands after feed time cuddles..I look like a tatterdemilion..ragged and unkempt..again Im comfortable in my own skin..
What Im curious about tho' is this.. If you were my sub, would you turn and walk away from play until I was clean and well dressed..would you feel undervalued and neglected by my apparent lack of self care
Do clothes and cleanliness in part.. maketh the Domme/Dom... Or is the inside care and cleanliness enough?
Did I explain myself properly?
Edited Mon 5 Oct 09, 11:08 AM by KorriLee
| 5 Oct 09, 11:08 AM goldberry UK(BN), 4 yrs   |
I've been dominated by a man in trackie bottoms before, ho hum! Strange little girl, where are you going? - The Stranglers | ||
| 5 Oct 09, 11:18 AM epona74 UK(SL), 7 yrs |
My own take on this is that it is the person that dominates me, not the clothes. If you were my dominant, I would be happy to be your sub regardless of what you wore-that is just the outer trappings, it is the inside, the energy, the person that matters. It is fun to dress for the occasion sometimes, and to have the added frisson of an outfit that matches the mood, but most of the time, it really doesn't matter one way or t'other. I might possibly struggle if you were in a clown's suit, because it would be hard to take anyone seriously in that, but other than that, wear what is comfortable and feels right to you.
And there's nothing better than that comforting horsey smell! Two roads diverged in a wood and I, I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference. (R Frost) | ||
| 5 Oct 09, 11:24 AM SirDreadly UK(CF), 5 yrs |
Aye, you explained properly, for me at any rate. While I can't answer specifically from an s-types point of view, I have always believed that clothes mean little in the face of what can sometimes be in those clothes. Besides, there's a world of difference between unkempt/comfortable with it and dubious personal hygiene. I'm not even gonna go into how I find the image of an unkempt lass with straw in her hair... Regards, M. Enjoyer of Niche Pleasures. | ||
| 5 Oct 09, 11:43 AM xCallyx UK, 5 yrs |
i would say that normally clothes or the lack thereof shouldnt make any difference. However i do remember in the dim and distant past a Dom ordered me to get on my knees and lick his shoes. It was something that i had done before, however when faced with his filthy trainers i admit i refused. In fact i turned rebel over everything that night, but had a lovely night on my own in the hotel room  The bottom half of GC INC | ||
| 5 Oct 09, 1:07 PM rebel_angel UK(RM), 4 yrs   |
Yes you did! I feel it doesn't matter what clothes a Dom/Domme wears, but care and cleanliness is a must! I cannot sub to someone who smells like they only take a bath at Christmas. Dominance is about the person, and if that person is unkempt and wearing dirty clothes then I believe their style and toys will be the same. If they smell nice and wear clean clothes (even if its jeans and a t-shirt) then to me it shows they look after themselves as well as their sub/toys/equipment. Life is a game, it just depends how you play it. | ||
| 5 Oct 09, 1:47 PM Caracal UK(SS), 5 yrs      |
Ahem.....
http://www.avaaz.org/en/ Edited 5 Oct 09, 1:50 PM by Caracal | ||
| 5 Oct 09, 1:48 PM KorriLee 5 yrs |
Ah, but you see, my clothes might be work worn and grubby, but myself is showered,hair fresh and washed, my teeth clean..its the shell thats shows the sign of carelessness, even tho' it may not be so.. Maybe I did not explain ma'sen so well as I'd thought..? Its kushti bok to wellen a Rom when tuts a pirryin down the drom | ||
| 5 Oct 09, 3:10 PM rebel_angel UK(RM), 4 yrs |
Nope it is I who has read your post incorrectly. I thought we were just talking about cleanliness. When it comes to clothing, wear what you wish, it doesn't matter what the person Topping/Doming me is wearing, they could be naked for all I care, but when it comes to cleanliness its a different ball game. Life is a game, it just depends how you play it. Edited 5 Oct 09, 3:18 PM by rebel_angel | ||
| 5 Oct 09, 7:25 PM pam_minxy UK, 9 yrs |
For me
It's always about the person.
Jazzy clothes and top of the range toys yeah i can appreciate them but they will never turn my head - if you aint got IT for me you aint got IT for me no matter how it is packaged. Some of the best plays and relationships - not always romantically since most of my experience is with friends anyway - have been with people in slippers and who knows what else - i was too busy having a good time to notice or care. Nor is IT about posturing and demanding "respect" and being called Sir or Ma'am etc - ha try that one on me and see how far it gets ya, and if ya do get one out of me it may deflate your ego and not inflate it. Just like my body aint all sleek n glossy - but that aint important - again cos i am having too good a time - and that is what is appreciated more. But if ya got IT ya got IT - and i am putty. SYNCHRONICITY ROCKS | ||
| 12 Oct 09, 6:09 PM katie_may UK, 7 yrs |
sometimes... ...there are distinct advantages to being smelly, depends what sort of smelly and why show me something different xkx |
