Lessons in Lesbianism (16)

ETA: It just happens. You grin, look away, blush, they grin, look away blush. One person goes to the other introduces themselves etc etc Generally all the same things happen when you fancy a woman as you do with blokes.

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Edited 2 Oct 09, 11:56 PM by ThedaVamp

Oooh sorry about that. Was a completely different link to the one I wanted. Have fixed it now.

ThedaVamp wrote: Crumbs - I did drunkenly pounce on a straight girl in a lesbian bar once - very awkward! I'd had enough vodka and compliments for being the most femme person in there and it all went to my head ETA: It just happens. You grin, look away, blush, they grin, look away blush. One person goes to the other introduces themselves etc etc Generally all the same things happen when you fancy a woman as you do with blokes.

You two are so much better at this than me. I have all the womanly love skills of a fifteen year old boy.

Maybe we should organise a girls night out? I can get squiffy, go up to women and say 'my mate fancies you'

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Girls night out sounds grand. I need all the help I can get. Possibly getting me squiffy might help too as my drunken lunges have generally been well received.

Now this i have simply got to see

You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist. Indira Gandhi

When I believed I was fully lesbian it was a pain in the arse when every now and then on a night out in gaysville I'd get the question "but you're not a lesbian are you?"

So yeah, it can be irrationally difficult if you've not got that spikey hair and body mod thing going on.

The best advice I can offer you (and this was the best thing that worked for me at the time) is to compensate for your lack of gaydar by doing an ammount of hint dropping yourself about your own sexuality when talking to someone you fancy...that way it takes a lot of the work out of having to read people because you're putting your ID on the table already and then it's up to them if they want to return your frankness.

I still think my suggested method is actually easier than spending a good few hours gelling every spike of hair to point up at the right angle before you can even leave the house

xx

It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice xx

Edited 3 Oct 09, 12:43 AM by totallycoverme

So I have started wearing overtly lesbian bits of jewelry...a ring with rainbow stones, a rainbow friendship bracelet...and I'm pretty open about my sexuality.

That way others can chat me up if they like

As for the gaydar thing...mine is fairly good (mainly for men), but seems to be affected by 'wishful thinking syndrome' in the case of women. But I am slowly learning to recognise signs from women that they're interested, but I can be a little slow too. Then again, it never hurts to 'play hard to get'!

*giggles*

Two roads diverged in a wood and I, I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference. (R Frost)
How long will you have to look for a feeling, if you're looking in the wrong filing cabinet? (R Wilkins)

Thank you. Nylons by Primarni.

I really appreciate compliments from other women even when they're not sexually motivated and tend to think most other women appreciate them too. It does however tend to make it more difficult to tell particularly if you find someone attractive and you want it to be sexually motivated. The latest object of my affection has complimented me on my appearance and I can't tell whether it's because she's being nice or whether Polish Girl is letting me know she's attracted to me. I got all excited because she touched my arm and said " I'll see you tomorrow".

I'm probably due some new pics. A girls night out might provide some interesting photo opportunities.

Thank you, your advice has been noted. I shall have to be a little more blatent.