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| 14 Jun 10, 12:28 PM entortiller UK(M), 2 yrs  |
teach_me, It was great to read your post and something that's been on mind this last week is this issue of control, so perfect timing. I have ME or CFS/Fibro (if you prefer) too. So also have a lot pain and other symptoms to deal with. I very much feel the same as you with regards to my submission, that it's the whole relinquishing of control which is a major key. However, with our illness I feel that I have to keep so much control, the management of it and the symptoms ultimately lies with me. I have to inform the person as to my state of health, what I'm currently capable of etc. It's tricky I find and lies in juxtaposition with what I ultimately desire. I wonder how you deal with it as you say that you want and know you need no choices. Do you ignore what your body is telling you? Or expect the Dom to know by understanding all your symptoms too?
"Resigning oneself to suffering from having one's freedom forcibly taken away results in producing a greater sense of pleasurable pain." | |
| 14 Jun 10, 5:33 PM sparklydolly UK(HU), 2 yrs |
This is a great thread, and actually something Ive been thinking about a lot over the past few weeks. Im in a fairly new D/s relationship, my first one, not his first though.
I think because I am new to it, he has been taking his time with me and giving me some choices, and being a bit more laid back, and basically letting some things go, which was fine at first, but this past week it has been causing some problems. Which have now been, and are being sorted out As some other sub's have also said, I dont like choices, it confuses me, I want to do what he wants. I need to clearly be told what is expected and what the consequences are if I dont live up to that expectation. And as others have also said, even doing something I really dont want to, would actually strengthen my submission. If I felt I was always getting my own way, or he was doing things just to please me, I dont think I'd be very happy in the long run, because in my opinion thats not what submission is about. sparkly x Edited for spelling. Im a broken doll, You're the puppeteer, Take control for me, And wipe away my fear - Paloma Faith Edited 14 Jun 10, 5:37 PM by sparklydolly | |
| 14 Jun 10, 10:51 PM Sircomelocute UK(B), 6 yrs |
What a delightful sub you will make for some fortunate Dom  Best wishes Sclx |
