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Posted by MzStardust on Wed 16 Sep 09, 1:08 PM to MzStardust's blog.

Had a bad morning at college. Tried to explain to my tutor about the problems with regards to not being shown how to do something and instead of supprting me and saying ok will show you, she chose to become defensive and make out she had done everything required. I ended up walking out of class really upset. Apparently she felt offended that I had to turn to another tutor to show me what I required and she felt I had demeaned her.

After speaking with the rest of classmates at break time they all said they knew what I was trying to say but she became very defensive and she shouldnt have. I have pointed it out several times privately that something I need to be shown hasnt been done and I felt it was understandable I would turn to someone else. I do like this tutor but can't see why she would be so defensive and make out I was in the wrong for asking for help. I thought being a student thats what I was meant to do, and apparerently there are other students who feel the same way too.

Looks like we are to just get on and do it and wing it. thats what happens when they overcrowd the class. Lack of education when your meant to be there specifically for getting a bloody education. Looks like all my free time is going to be spent trying to work out that damn unit required by myself.

Well stuff it. I'm going to practice every waking moment I can on it and damn well be bloody brilliant at it! and if she tries to take credit for teaching me I'll be right there saying... er no I don't think so!

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16 Sep 09, 1:28 PM
druidic
UK(DD), 12 yrs
Perhaps it is already known to her supervisors that she is not that great an educator and her defensive reaction towards you is down to fear for her job?

Hope you get the topic you are haivng problems with sorted :)

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16 Sep 09, 1:43 PM
MzStardust
UK, 2 yrs
Thanks Druidic. She's just jumped in expecting everyone to know it all because we are a higher level. I had a chat with her last week about the issues I have. Had a chat with another student too in the same boat and more today who said they don't know how to do half the stuff but are winging it. Apparently we are meant to look for pictures and copy what we see which is under the terms of research. but how do you copy a picture when you don't know the fundamental basics of how it came about in the first place? It was her defensiveness that I coudn't understand. I double checked with the students to see if I had belittled or demeaned her in any way and they all said no so don't understand why she was so defensive really. I do genuinly actually like the woman but just couldn't understand why I was trying to point something out and instead of saying ok who else feels they don't know enough about the topic so she could get us all en masse she chose to go on the defensive saying we have had weeks to practice.. This is the third week we have been there. ( edited to say this is the third class in the three weeks we have been back)

so sod it... educational books have been ordered five minutes ago and I'll train myself. I won't let this beat me. just scunnered that I got such a reaction but never mind.. lesson learnt... keep mouth shut and get on with it.

Edited 16 Sep 09, 1:45 PM by MzStardust

16 Sep 09, 6:16 PM
peirene
UK(CH), 3 yrs
Sounds like the classic signs of a teacher who lacks confidence. The defencive reaction is, exactly that. She sounds as if she is covering for her lack of skills and understanding of the situation.

Her demeanor would indicate she is more concerned with her own performance than the level of understanding in the class. Sadly this is often the case in modern teaching environments where to many targets are set and too large a class size is being taught.

If you feel though she is not providing the support you need, you should raise the issue with the college. They have a "duty of care" to you. They are there to provide an education, not waste your time.

16 Sep 09, 8:42 PM
MzStardust
UK, 2 yrs
Thank you for your input. It's mucho appreciated. Right now all I'm doing is eating, sleeping and living Avant Garde. I'm determined to get really good at it. It's sad though that I have to do it on my own but where there's a will there's a way. I'm not going to rock the boat. This woman will pass me for my exams and I don't want to make it any harder. One girl told me today that she did an exam last year and her work was really really good but the tutor failed her for "lack of confidence" which I thought was terrible. She might not have had the confidence to start but her work and her timing was absolutely fine and deserved a pass. To fail someone for something thats not on the criteria was wrong. I'll be going way out to be bloody brilliant at it. It's a personal thing now.
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