Posted by peirene on Wed 16 Sep 09, 12:35 PM to peirene's blog.
Tags: Chester (CH)
A Domme, sent me a lovely email, enquiring if I was interested in serving her. I read her profile and I found it interesting and it looked as if we shared many similar interests.
Then after a few emails, she enquired if I was free for daytime "sessions" etc and I began to think it sounded like she was trying to fit me into her calender.
Then the next email after my reply, asked if I was happy with a £100 per session tribute.
I don't wish to upset the "pro" Domme's here. However for myself I wish to find someone who wishes me to serve them, because of who I am. And not for financial gain. I know you offer a service, I know equipment costs etc, but I am seeking someone who has self integrity and who is after forming a connection with me as a person.
I have been told this view is niave and arrogant. If it is, then well that is my view. I cannot change that, its the way I feel.
So, the reason for this post was really to find out, am I alone in this view or not? I am genuinely interested in what people think.
| 16 Sep 09, 12:39 PM Sweevo UK(EH), 5 yrs   |
I personally think she should have made her intentions clear from the first email. "Beat her, mistreat her, do anything that you please Bite her, excite her, make her get down on her knees" Iron Maiden - 22 Acacia Avenue | |
| 16 Sep 09, 12:51 PM CookieMonster UK, 6 yrs |
Your quite right here. asking for "tributes" of a £100 when she contacted you first is a bloody cheek imo.
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| 16 Sep 09, 12:52 PM peirene UK(CH), 3 yrs |
Yes, sadly in this case, her first email gave the indication she was looking for a relationship as such, but to be fair to her, her profile stated she did demand tribute. Which is why I did not contact her previously untill i recieved the enquiry. | |
| 16 Sep 09, 12:54 PM Mr_Diabolical 2 yrs |
I'm not interested in paying anybody for their company - BDSM or otherwise. | |
| 16 Sep 09, 12:54 PM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
It's an AUP violation, if they ask for money for bdsm but don't have the £ sign up on the profile. Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you? | |
| 16 Sep 09, 1:01 PM peirene UK(CH), 3 yrs |
Indeed it would be on this site, the email came actually on another site, but didn't want to upset the person asking by opening a discussion there about it there. Its the principals and peoples views on them that interest me. Edited 16 Sep 09, 1:02 PM by peirene | |
| 16 Sep 09, 1:27 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
I find that so many people have different morals to mine. If she mentioned she wants a tribute on her profile then she wasn't misleading, maybe in future you should clarify that first if it is included. | |
| 16 Sep 09, 1:36 PM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
Ah, OK. Either way, honesty upfront counts for all, to my way of thinking. Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you? | |
| 16 Sep 09, 1:45 PM jules9 UK(CH), 3 yrs    |
Personally there's no chance I would pay a Dom a tribute. The fact she started contact under the premise of wanting a relationship makes it even worse. All of the pros I have spoken to are open and honest about what they do. From what you have said, it sounds like this woman is little more than a con artist. My advice is to say away, find a real pro Domme who is honest and upfront about what she offers, or keep on searching for your One (or Two, or Three...). XxX | |
| 16 Sep 09, 2:14 PM Ms_Valentine UK, 9 yrs |
I am sorry someone tried to take advantage of you this way. If she is a real Pro-Domme she should be ashamed of herself. If she is just a materialistic chancer, well, she should also be ashamed of herself. Of course you are right to seek a personal relationship if that is what you really want. Your view can't be arrogant as it doesn't fit the definition of arrogance and I don't think it is naive, although male subs do find it hard to find lifestyle Dommes to serve, it is true. However, I don't like your implication that pro-dommes lack self integrity as you call it. I think the good pro-dommes of whom I am one (Mistress Keene is my PD name on here) all display their green £ signs and make it clear what they are offering. Being a PD in and of itself does not mean one lacks integrity, it just means we have chosen a particular way to make our living, a way which the informed and consenting male subs we play with are happy about and no one is harmed or ripped off.There is no lack of integrity there. So. by all means be annoyed you came across a scammer and be determined to find a lifestyle Mistress, but don't lump all PDs together with the con artist or by implication suggest we have no integrity. 24/7 subs and slaves can and do live similar lives, it is only the concept of 'ownership' which separates them. |
