No sex please ! We're Dominatrices.... (76)

Game Miss P. I lost that one on wit AND erudition.

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For you it may be sexual and as such you need an orgasm, but for others it can be sexual but they don't want or need an orgasm. An orgasm can signify the end of the session, but some don't want the session to end so they will put off having an orgasm until they are ready, whether it is that night or a few days later. For others it isn't sexual because they consider sex as something that they have with their wife and their wife only. Horses for courses and all that.

The 'no sex' thing usually means "you're not shagging me mate so don't even go there, nor are you getting a blow job". As to what a PD will do that is entirely up to her. There isn't a manual or a code of practise or anything and boundaries can shift depending on her mood, her beliefs, her changing mood, her changing beliefs...the point being that it is up to her, not up to the client ie there is no price list, nothing can be ordered. Just because there is 'no sex' doesn't mean that it won't be the most sensuous or mind blowing hour you have ever had.

For some clients a good telling off *is* all they need. Some want a good kicking, some want serious pain, some want humiliation because they need it for a myriad of reasons that sometimes even they don't understand. You've answered your own question there...

So why are you asking these questions when you have already discovered that an orgasm isn't always needed?

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Agreed, Lady_Anna, it is important that a sub sees the difference between what an encounter with a prostitute is like to that of a Professional Dominatrix. With PDs they call the tune regarding what if any sexual contact and play goes on, whereas with a prostitute they offer all manner of sexual services and a client may choose which one(s) he wishes.

I like the idea that in my sessions I can do what I like and go in whatever direction I feel. I always say that penetrative sex and me doing oral on him are definitely out, but pretty much anything else, well, that is for me to decide when and if I want to.

As has been said, subs comes to PDs for all kinds of reasons and have varying degrees of sexual connection to it.

I am as comfortable with those who are not viewing the session as sexual as those who are.

Finally, regarding the OP's question about CP. Maybe I am being odd but any PD who offers CP should know how to handle her implements with finesse and sensuality just as much as with strength and endurance. It had never occurred to me that emphasis was placed so much on the high pain end of the spectrum.

Sorry, but that doesn't sound like 'an experienced switch', by any stretch of the imagination. A few sessions in clubs don't count for dick, tbh.

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Some men can hang on to sexual tension for days if not weeks and make good use of sexual hormones to get 'high' during that period.

BDSM can still be sexual without ending play with intercourse or masturbation.

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You see I think this is at the very heart of why there is often a lot of misunderstandings on this board. I think there is an assumption amongst the less experienced - by less experienced I mean within the world of pro Domming - that we're all virtually the same service provider and it's a very "one size fits all" thing. It always fails to take into account that we all do really different things, we all have totally different styles of play. At its heart, that's why you don't sit home and have a wank.... you choose to submit to a very particular woman.... not just any woman you've put a drawing pin in on a list, but the one who's writing and website have really touched you. It's a little more spiritual than just getting your rocks off.... although of course that often happens too.... of course, being denied for an hour or so in the company of a real tease produces quite a good one!

This isn't a huge criticism of the OP - but if he were to have a good look on websites nowadays, he'd find that very few state "no sex", particularly amongst the women who post regularly on this forum.... what he would find is that we're a little more specific about what we do and don't do, that's all.

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