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| 9 Sep 09, 9:39 AM Belasarius UK(M), 8 yrs        |
My girl is rarely punished (barring the odd slap for cheek, etc), but never let off if she fesses up to something that requires dealing with more formally. I think both of us get a little embarrassed about it when it happens, because to be frank, it is usually not entirely one person's fault. But, nevertheless, she sticks her butt up, pert - counts and thanks me in a good firm voice, is austere with herself in not counting mis-hits. Knowing it is my failure that has brought us to this I ensure my palms more than tingle by the time I have finished and she kisses them better and bites them for me. She's usually moist (around the eyes) by this time and I hold her till she smiles again. All in all it is usually a very positive experience for us both. Patience is bitter - but its fruit is sweet. | ||
| 9 Sep 09, 10:36 AM Malbon UK(LS), 8 yrs |
I know a lot of people do like to engage in CP, or other activities, as part of a sort of traditional transgression->punishment cycle. I find it doesn't work for me, and never has, if I'm honest about it. The things that people would normally associate with punishment I tend to do anyway, simply because I am a sensual sadist, and enjoy it. I don't really need an excuse, although I do sometimes play around with them. So if there is a genuine transgression it's a bit difficult to know where to go with it really. Do something more severe than usual? Subtract the sensual bit? Or use some psychological punishment? None of these really have much appeal to me. In my personal experience, if the girl genuinely needs punishing, it usually means the relationship is close to breakdown. I have failed to control her, she has failed me, and she is in danger of being released. It's usually pretty upsetting for both of us, and if we're going to save the day it's more likely to be by talking it through, rather than through "punishment". A gentleman is a man who can play the accordion but doesn't. | ||
| 9 Sep 09, 10:47 AM bi_slave_toni 2 yrs |
Why on earth would you want to be let off a punishment ?
I know it won't be any fun, and may well be horrible, but if I have earned a punishment, and the punishment has been fairly awarded, then as horrible as it might be, I need to take the punishment. It's the price I happily pay for being owned. And looking back on a punishment can be such fun | ||
| 9 Sep 09, 11:43 AM Missdirection UK(LL), 3 yrs |
I understand that a punishment is expected after you have done something wrong, i just wish I'd keep my gob shut sometimes and do as i'm told  sometimes (actually all of the time) my mouth works quicker than my brain. Perhaps I should become a mute?!?! a smile across my ass with a slap across my face | ||
| 9 Sep 09, 11:59 AM AlexCobra UK(WC), 6 yrs |
From this Dom's perspective, punishment should not just be for the benefit of the sub, it should be a joy in itself - otherwise it would be work. So of course not. | ||
| 9 Sep 09, 12:00 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs |
Why should it be a joy? | ||
| 9 Sep 09, 12:01 PM AlexCobra UK(WC), 6 yrs |
Oh, yes. That's the spirit! | ||
| 9 Sep 09, 12:35 PM AlexCobra UK(WC), 6 yrs |
Well, it is about correction - setting on the right path - which should be celebrated. With an element of ritual it can be a huge sensory and psychological experience for both parties which will provide an abiding memory. It has to be a joy to work. For my money a proper punishment thing (and there's a sliding scale) has to be infrequent or the currency is debased. It depends on the relationship and definition of punishment within it. Adding: I mean, this is a BDSM site and we're here taking an active interest in it and forking out for all the clubs and kit so it's hard to see what is actually a punishment and not an element of the sport. Edited 9 Sep 09, 12:41 PM by AlexCobra | ||
| 9 Sep 09, 10:59 PM erus_boy_g UK(SK), 4 yrs |
i have personally never been let off a punishment, and am quite sure i never will be by Mistress, but i tend to for the most part try to be a good boy.
very happily Owned and Collared by Ms LacednLicked | ||
| 9 Sep 09, 11:02 PM yareli NL, 6 yrs |
There is also arbitrary and capricious punishment, which apparently is a joy.
"I am just about at the end of my rope with you." |
No fun at the time obviously, but retrospectively ? Delicious 
