When you work on those foundations, the structure strengthens with every honest conversation.
It doesn't matter.
Each brick is strong and the foundations are stronger.
And it remains robust as ever.
28 Aug 09, 2:35 AM
larra_uk
7 yrs |
Ahhhhh trust is a wonderful thing, something no relationship can survive without.
BUt first you must have it, and second you must retain it.
larra x |
28 Aug 09, 4:01 AM
AnEnglishMaster
UK(ME), 4 yrs
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Surely someone you TRULY trust is someone who CAN play with you, but you feel safe as they do so?
English x |
28 Aug 09, 5:42 AM
Intemporelle
CA, 5 yrs
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Trust is constructed of so many things yet, like you say, it is both robust and fragile.. Trust in someone is a profound belief in what we think they are. Because they prove to us over and over again, that we are right to believe in them, the way they act, in how they live. That they don't play with the truth, they don't play with emotions, they don't play with you.
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28 Aug 09, 5:07 PM
Miss_Namio
UK(DT), 5 yrs
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To quote someone special to me:
he wrote:
To me submission means giving someone the ability to destroy your life and trusting them enough to know they won't |
Lip Up Phatty 
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28 Aug 09, 6:16 PM
Intemporelle
CA, 5 yrs
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Miss_Namio wrote:
To quote someone special to me:
he wrote:
To me submission means giving someone the ability to destroy your life and trusting them enough to know they won't |
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I'll have to think about this quote some more, I'm not sure I like the sound of it.
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28 Aug 09, 6:36 PM
Intemporelle
CA, 5 yrs
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TheMarquise wrote:
Mnemosyne wrote:
Miss_Namio wrote:
To quote someone special to me:
he wrote:
To me submission means giving someone the ability to destroy your life and trusting them enough to know they won't |
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I'll have to think about this quote some more, I'm not sure I like the sound of it.
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I don't much either. It sounds perhaps too much like an attitude I have come across before where the submissive wants to feel the immensity, the importance of subbing to me and is deadly serious about this and yet, when it comes down to it, the commitment is not there in the way I offer or expect it.
The notion behind that statement seems to spring from the idea of a generic domme who has this exciting power over the sub. It appears to me that its more about the kick the sub can get from this idea, rather than any notion of his heart, body and soul actually being on the line.
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I agree. It sounds to me like it would be something a sub would say when he is really aroused.
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28 Aug 09, 6:56 PM
Intemporelle
CA, 5 yrs
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TheMarquise wrote:
Mnemosyne wrote:
TheMarquise wrote:
Mnemosyne wrote:
Miss_Namio wrote:
To quote someone special to me:
he wrote:
To me submission means giving someone the ability to destroy your life and trusting them enough to know they won't |
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I'll have to think about this quote some more, I'm not sure I like the sound of it.
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I don't much either. It sounds perhaps too much like an attitude I have come across before where the submissive wants to feel the immensity, the importance of subbing to me and is deadly serious about this and yet, when it comes down to it, the commitment is not there in the way I offer or expect it.
The notion behind that statement seems to spring from the idea of a generic domme who has this exciting power over the sub. It appears to me that its more about the kick the sub can get from this idea, rather than any notion of his heart, body and soul actually being on the line.
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I agree. It sounds to me like it would be something a sub would say when he is really aroused.
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Indeed, and the unimagnative kind of comment that seems all too frequent in the on line context. Of course, I don't know if this was said to someone Miss Namio knows well, but its what I am used to hearing from those who have formed their notion of D/S primarily from an on line quarter.
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Agreed. I have in the past, experienced it from online fantasists .. It does not arouse me and it never will.. Destruction, the knowledge and even the thought that I could destroy someone's life, is never the intention I have behind my desire to dominate someone.
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28 Aug 09, 8:45 PM
Miss_Namio
UK(DT), 5 yrs
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Actually it's on his profile - and dates to a time when we both had much to lose from our friendship/relationship in the past...if either of us had not had built innate trust in each other, then the fallout from breach of trust would have been immense.
He's a definitely a *real life* kind of person - but with a life that could not have been compromised - and a genuine friend still, well known in his scene area.
I think perhaps there is a tendency of over-think and over-analyse a simple expression of feeling from a sweet submissive man.
Lip Up Phatty
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28 Aug 09, 8:47 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 6 yrs
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Mnemosyne wrote:
TheMarquise wrote:
Mnemosyne wrote:
TheMarquise wrote:
Mnemosyne wrote:
Miss_Namio wrote:
To quote someone special to me:
he wrote:
To me submission means giving someone the ability to destroy your life and trusting them enough to know they won't |
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I'll have to think about this quote some more, I'm not sure I like the sound of it.
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I don't much either. It sounds perhaps too much like an attitude I have come across before where the submissive wants to feel the immensity, the importance of subbing to me and is deadly serious about this and yet, when it comes down to it, the commitment is not there in the way I offer or expect it.
The notion behind that statement seems to spring from the idea of a generic domme who has this exciting power over the sub. It appears to me that its more about the kick the sub can get from this idea, rather than any notion of his heart, body and soul actually being on the line.
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I agree. It sounds to me like it would be something a sub would say when he is really aroused.
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Indeed, and the unimagnative kind of comment that seems all too frequent in the on line context. Of course, I don't know if this was said to someone Miss Namio knows well, but its what I am used to hearing from those who have formed their notion of D/S primarily from an on line quarter.
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Agreed. I have in the past, experienced it from online fantasists .. It does not arouse me and it never will.. Destruction, the knowledge and even the thought that I could destroy someone's life, is never the intention I have behind my desire to dominate someone.
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I can't help but feel that it was totally unnecessary to have pulled apart, picked at and analysed something that was shared with us all, by someone who stated that it was written by someone who is special to them. "Truth is stranger than fiction."
Q. What are the components of a good dynamic? A. The mutual desire to share ourselves with each other.
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29 Aug 09, 9:49 AM
BigOldHector
UK(DE), 10 yrs
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TheMarquise wrote:
Mnemosyne wrote:
Miss_Namio wrote:
To quote someone special to me:
he wrote:
To me submission means giving someone the ability to destroy your life and trusting them enough to know they won't |
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I'll have to think about this quote some more, I'm not sure I like the sound of it.
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I don't much either. It sounds perhaps too much like an attitude I have come across before where the submissive wants to feel the immensity, the importance of subbing to me and is deadly serious about this and yet, when it comes down to it, the commitment is not there in the way I offer or expect it. Perhaps I also struggle with it as I bristle at the idea that giving me power is taking a risk of a life shattering level. I aim to enhance a submissives life, certainly not destroy it!
The notion behind that statement seems to spring from the idea of a generic domme who has this exciting power over the sub. It appears to me that its more about the kick the sub can get from this idea, rather than any notion of his heart, body and soul actually being on the line.
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In a way the quote is possibly apt. However I would say that this potentially "destructive" power is only surrendered where the prospect of it being used destructively is too unlikely to be a serious consideration.
I AM THE GOD OF HELL-FIRE!.....but its my lunch break right now
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