Subbie not feeling subbie at all (11)

I would have a chat with her about why she may feel like this. I've found that the more of talked of my repressed little side, the more it has whined and pouted to come out.

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Thanks for that Ariadne Tally. We do spend lots of time talking over these things. And we are effectively both switches, which is what I thing you may have been describing in yourself.

I think I am a bit shocked that it has happened just before we are due to go to a club, as you get youself into a mindset.

I am post-Domme now sub to my wonderful partner and Dom of 2 years who changed me, however I still have "Domme moments" when I want to (and sometimes try to) top. Obviously, I wouldn't alter the roles, but it can be very hard to play sub when you don't feel it. It's hard to hit subspace when your head isn't in the game.

Want my advice? Play and suggest hints of Dominace & submission as often as you can. If I make a remark to my partner, threats of forthcoming punishments (even if he forgets them!) can weaken me. If you use a name for her in play, just whispering it in her ear may help coax her back to her fluffy side! Good luck!

e x

Find some poor innocent subbie and double Top them??

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Also, my carefully considered advice would be to try really hard not to "insult" by suggesting that being unable to submit is a sign of *her* failure, as this can be seriously counter-productive...

What would happen if there was a paradigm shift in a procol harem?

"Nothing saves anyone's life, Sir. It just postpones their death." - Posner , The History Boys.
All it takes for bad English to prevail is for literate people to do nothing.

Maybe part of the problem is that it is a 'role' rather than coming naturally to her? But if she enjoys bottoming during play, perhaps she could look at it as just that rather than submission.

Obviously I don't know you or anything of your dynamic; but if she is just trying to submit to please you then that is a pressure rather than something natural she feels she needs to do to be fulfilled.

Hope talking lots helps.

~ If you must pick the lesser of two evils; choose the one you've never tried before. ~

Thank you that was a really valuable comment Masters Ickle Subby. I will try this. Perhap it may be because we haven't spent much time talking face to face recently too.

Dorian

**Accidentally bites own tongue**

Thanks for the quotes.

Don't worry I wouldn't suggest it was a failure of hers not to submit. I am sure she will be feeling a bit more subbie after today.

Dorian