Posted by Sunhillow
on Fri 21 Aug 09, 6:26 PM to Sunhillow's blog.
Just want to say, this is not a 'nilla-bashing blog... after all I was one 6 years ago.
But after a yummy session involving nipple & geno-torture, strangulation & breath play it got me thinking exactly when was it that my brain got rewired so that pain during sex turns me on big time!?? The more I get the more I crave... more... more... MORE!
I mean how does that process happen? It's definitely a re-programming thing.
When I came round from my floaty, snuggled-up, endorphin-fuelled after glow I got to thinking about whether vanilla sex could ever do it for me again and reached the conclusion that no, it probably couldn't.
Although we've never done anything that I'd consider really extreme, I crave pain; dammit I beg for pain, shamelessly whispering "please Master hurt me" and He just laughs as he punches my.....
Pavlov has an awful lot to answer for I think!
Is there a biological/neurological explanation? I do hope so.
Oh and I discovered that a Master who works from home some of the time can be a wonderful thing! 
(Edited for crap spelling)
Edited Sat 22 Aug 09, 9:05 AM by Sunhillow
| 21 Aug 09, 9:21 PM EnforcedConsent 3 yrs |
I've thought that too. Where, when, exactly was it that I thought that inflicting pain on someone would be a turn on? Was it a gradual slide from mild spanking while being ridden to making it more of a single act than something done while other things were happening. I think it was a slow change from doing kinksome 'nilla things while having nilla sex to letting my imagination develop. In the whole, my development is directly attributable to one very special person who still holds a part of me that nobody else might ever equal. She had a small amount of her own equipment when we got together and it was through her giving me the chance to be who I was while playing with this equipment of hers that we both found our "other" sides. A mix of nature and nurture and courage I'd say. Good post!! Sin Like You Mean It! | |
| 22 Aug 09, 10:17 AM Sunhillow 7 yrs |
Well for me, in situations where I've been the one topping & giving the pain, the pleasure has come from the bottom's trust, their responses & arousal & from knowing I have the power to give them such pleasure. But, putting aside any dynamic or mental element, I was trying to analyse when my body started to respond to pain with sexual arousal. Now obviously in bdsm play, pain is often given at the same time as or alternating with sexual activity. So, that's an obvious reason why the two become associated. I have become aroused by pain in a completely non bdsm/sexual context; e.g. (and it's embarrassing to admit this) from the pain of cystitis! So it would seem that the automatic response is so strong that the context doesn't matter I do wonder if there is the potential for masochism in all of us. And if so, that's an odd thing don't you think? I guess it's just them there chemicals. ~ If you must pick the lesser of two evils; choose the one you've never tried before. ~ Edited 22 Aug 09, 10:30 AM by Sunhillow | |
| 24 Aug 09, 3:16 PM wonderer UK, 5 yrs  |
That's a really interesting question - perhaps worth a thread on the web boards. Does the pleasure deriving from pain come purely from endorphins (in which case I guess most people could experience it) or is it from a mental connection (in which case it would mainly apply to those whose brains were submissivly "wired") or is it something deriving from mental association (in which case anyone reasonably suggestible could learn to experience it)? I don't have any answers, just restating the question. Ubi caritas et amor, Deus ibi est. http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/226772/ |
