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| Mon 17 Aug 09, 5:59 PM a_gloomy_kitty UK(SS), 3 yrs   |
first of all i have to say that i have read so many threads started by male subs saying how hard it is to find a domme....i rarely read anything by a female domme saying the same, though sometimes i think that i will never meet someone i like. this thread is a little bit more serious than me whinging about not having found my soul mate on ic. its about the belief that some male subs have that i and other women on here are here for their use, their needs and to be stalked and given abuse if we dont meet those needs. im sick of it, and im sick of female dommes being blamed on threads for the reason these subs cant even get someone to say hello to them. i checked my mail a little while ago and found 7 memos from one sub sent today...i havent even read the first...and when i did it was asking about a message on another site...when i check that site there are 2 messages on there... this is stalking regaurdless of how you look at it, and while the messages are so far nice enough...i know from experience how quickly they can turn abusive and nasty. anyway rant over...but i just wanted to share how pissed off some guys on here make me.
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| 17 Aug 09, 6:09 PM CurvyDomme UK(CO), 2 yrs |
I think 'stalking' is a rather emotive word and somewhat exaggerating in this instance, no? A rather over-zealous sub, yes, but a stalker? I don't think so. | ||
| 17 Aug 09, 6:13 PM a_gloomy_kitty UK(SS), 3 yrs |
maybe a little OTT, but i was annoyed :p but it is worrying, i would never meet him now...id be worried about what he is like in real life and would i have the same problems as ladymiss_t | ||
| 17 Aug 09, 6:13 PM Manson UK(M), 2 yrs |
Oh dear, sometimes I do find it rather embarrassing to be male, I don't know why but this does seem to be a kind of male thing.
I'm not like this at all, I'm not a sub, but if I don't hear back from someone, that's usually it, I move on. Even if I've been mailing someone for sometime, and they suddenly stop replying, I might send a "hey, what's up" but that'll be it, I don't beg or pester, lol. I don't have the time or inclination So even though I am male, or maybe especially because I am male, I will offer my sympathy and can only wish it were different. | ||
| 17 Aug 09, 6:15 PM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs |
Stalking is a legal term and I don't think 7 emails in one day is illegal and you couldn't get an injunction against it as harrassment but if you don't want emails from someone just reply and say not interested and most people then desist. | ||
| 17 Aug 09, 6:26 PM Kali_Ma UK(B), 5 yrs |
You know I don't get this whole 'I've had X number of memos from subs this week' thing that other Domme's seem to be plagued with. I rarely get one in a month.
Either my pic puts the buggers off, or I'm scary! PGK x 'My Brothers, My Sisters, My Blood...' | ||
| 17 Aug 09, 6:27 PM a_gloomy_kitty UK(SS), 3 yrs |
well you do have such a fluffy bunny name... would you like me to point some of mine in your direction? lol | ||
| 17 Aug 09, 6:30 PM a_gloomy_kitty UK(SS), 3 yrs |
im not man bashing, sub bashing or anything else... i just think it would be handy for the idiots that do this to read this thread and realise it doesnt do them any good...it actually harms their chances. aslo i should prob not post when first annoyed, as i get my legal wording wrong. next time i will consult a lawyer on the proper words to use lol | ||
| 17 Aug 09, 6:34 PM Attitude_Adjuster UK(N), 6 yrs |
Its the fact that they are idiots, that stops them having any kind of common sense - sheesh - you'll be expecting them to read your profile and stuff next And all men kill the thing they love, By all let this be heard, Some do it with a bitter look, Some with a flattering word, The coward does it with a kiss, The brave man with a sword! | ||
| 17 Aug 09, 6:41 PM a_gloomy_kitty UK(SS), 3 yrs |
i would hope genuine people would message me once in an afternoon...not 9 times, and sometimes they get nastier and nastier wanting to know why i havent responded...and sometimes its becuase ive been at work and no where near my laptop. | ||
| 17 Aug 09, 6:43 PM Mistress_Avralivia UK(RG), 4 yrs £ |
I have had plenty of subs apply, then send another memo, then another, after a polite no thanks they then chat message me. After this happening a few times I have just leant to use the ignore button as and when necessary. I don't consider it stalking, I consider it being desperate.
They can't help themselves because we are so damn hawt, right?
Senno Ekto Gamat |
