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| 16 Aug 09, 10:26 AM altheegg 6 yrs  |
Changeling, that is exactly my point; if you are in bondage and being spanked , waxed --whatever, all your worries and stress disapear. I have used this method to relax all my life. -- Always waiting. | ||
| 16 Aug 09, 11:10 AM changeling221 UK(MK), 2 yrs  |
For me, I would not spank someone in bondage, unless we'd spanked before a few times. Its important to me to feel their reactions OTK, and to be able to find their limits and push them. Only then would I consider restraining them with bondage, to let us push those limits further.Its all about me being in control of a situation where I'm getting total pleasure out of sending someone into a painful but blissful place. That sense of controlling that, is what floats my boat. I wouldn't feel that total pleasure, if my spankee was just suffering. IMO its all about building the experience together.
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| 16 Aug 09, 11:36 AM Disciplinegiver UK(SG), 4 yrs |
Personally anyone i spank i like to find out there reason firstly for wanting this maybe they have been curious about taking first steps maybe they have a fantasy role play thiey wish to act out or like some spanking and discipline for real life reasons.
The more you can discuss with a person their reasons the more you can give them what they want there needs to be a slow build up maybe even some scolding corner time to think on matters that have been discussed making them wait knowing they just want it to be over building the antcipation up throughout a meeting and having the respect and care for the person who has put theretrust in you to give them what they need and seek and no more being able to read body language to when you need to lighten up or get firmer but again do not take literally that someone wants a hard spanking or even caning when you know they have no experience or see from their body language also how there bottom looks that enough is enough Also taking much time to discuss with newbies to it listening to exactly what they say and making the final decision to how to deal with this person so that enjoyment and pleasures can be had from maybe their first spanking experience leading them on to future meetings and not turning them of as the spanker has been selfish and no consideration for the thoughts of their spankee also after care from their spanking like giving them a cushion (lol) to sit on why you both chat about the meeting as you sip a tea or coffee | ||
| 16 Aug 09, 3:56 PM Arbuthnot UK(E), 7 yrs |
Are we just talking about hand spanking here? A few implements require specific skills, but they're not rocket science. What's much more important is the occasion, the atmosphere, the ritual and dialogue and what happens afterwards. In my view, these require perception and judgment and that's more important then physical skill. | ||
| 16 Aug 09, 8:20 PM Ishmael UK(SE), 12 yrs |
This reads to me as if you have defined the criteria that you think qualify someone to be 'skilled at spanking' and are touting for the person that agrees with you and fills the bill. It's not hard to find someone good at spanking; finding someone whose tastes dovetail with your own might be a trickier prospect, and one better assaulted by getting out and meeting some kinky people in real life; the internet really isn't the best place. Free film about The London Corporal Punishment School can be seen at http://www.the-firm.org/Cinema.htm | ||
| 16 Aug 09, 9:24 PM just_iana UK(SS), 6 yrs |
not to be contrary, but on this one thing i differ! I do agree that for very serious issues this might be right, but there are times, that a lovely spanking really does clear the mind... i just think that communication is the key to this... | ||
| 16 Aug 09, 10:38 PM Vareox UK, 2 yrs |
Not at all. This is a dull and uninspiring routine. It suggests only one way to spank and puts all of the power, real and apparent, in the hands of the bottom. In my experience that is not what is required at all.
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| 16 Aug 09, 10:43 PM Vareox UK, 2 yrs |
Why 'obviously'?
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| 16 Aug 09, 10:58 PM Mad_Monk UK(BH), 4 yrs |
Accompanied with a simple but firm trussing, a correctly judged arse-tanning forms the perfect introduction to the "Dark Side" for many.
...Some don't even press charges "He took a single sip of her pain and found it exquisite" Edited 16 Aug 09, 11:00 PM by Mad_Monk | ||
| 16 Aug 09, 10:59 PM The_Comedian UK, 2 yrs |
I actually like spanking but I have to admit this is so uninspired. Fortunately it was a lame attempt at self promotion (psst, I don't think you made anybody wet). You need to learn to go for for the big spank, the forbidden spank. The spank you can't tell anyone about because of the social and legal consequences. The best spank of my life was when I was discussing it with my first psychologist about some of my more acceptable fetishes and she offered her bottom for a spanking. I'll never forget how she looked, stood there with her pert backside stuck out looking out of a window with an excited, devlish grin, and the little squeak of glee she made when I cracked her hard enough to send her staggering forward, and the adorable "ooh" she made when sitting back down on the sore flesh. It's moments like that, moments that go completely against the grain of society, moments of illicit and instantaneous power exchange which you have to seize then and there or it's gone forever that make this "scene" interesting. What you described couldn't be more clinical if you did it with medical gloves and iodine tincture. Edited 16 Aug 09, 11:00 PM by The_Comedian |
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