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| 14 Sep 09, 11:49 PM Balone 3 yrs |
I don't think you read my comment properly Pais porrada | ||
| 15 Sep 09, 7:38 AM lisal 9 yrs |
I am not quite sure why it takes a "bit of courage to allow a sub to enjoy a sense of privacy and intimacy" My experience is you get that with a good domme (which clearly Mistress Keene is) naturally as part of the session (and afterwards). It's that - to my mind anyway - that helps enhance a session from the type that some ICers (not you Balone btw) think is the norm for PDs I am not a big lover of reviews myself. However, if a sub willingly writes one then it's his/her choice (obviously with the domme's agreement) to allow a bit of what happens in private out into the world In all honesty, if my domme wanted me to review her I would. It's not going to happen as she doesn't have (and doesn't want) an internet presence. We are very close and one review of one session wouldn't (in my case anyway) in any way effect or impact on what we have between us
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| 15 Sep 09, 8:04 AM Lady_Anna_Bradford UK(BD), 5 yrs    |
You didn't explain anything properly, hence my asking. "If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness | ||
| 15 Sep 09, 9:04 AM MistressKeene 3 yrs £ |
Thanks for saying pleasant things about me. However, I am not unusually professional when compared to most of the rest of the core of regular PD contributors on this Board. I have a deep sense of respect for, and in a few cases, friendship with them and know they are professional, competent ,intelligent, genuine in every way and generally great people. I say this as I want to make it clear I am not in favour of trying to create competitiveness where so far cooperation and friendship have worked so well. I don't think it takes 'courage' as you say to create sessions where privacy and intimacy are highly valued. I think it is part of the professionalism all good PDs on here work hard for, to create intimacy within what is potentially limited by being a professional session and to be unafraid to allow men to feel the kinds of things they really need to feel as part of the bdsm experience.
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| 15 Sep 09, 9:10 AM aka_kelly UK(YO), 2 yrs  |
I am a 'newbie' i took several weeks visiting ProDomme's website and never read a single review purely so i could make my own mind up based on my tastes and found a list of only 6 close to me that i believed were right for me, i communicated with all via mail/phone as an enquiry first to enhance my belief of which would be best for me and my taste, i found i was not let down in fact it was better than expected, and my desire to take to the scene has increased . I have been back since and will visit again Is life simple for those who choose to live rather than exist | ||
| 15 Sep 09, 9:18 AM Lady_Anna_Bradford UK(BD), 5 yrs |
Other clients would do well to follow your example. If you do your research thoroughly you should never be let down. Far too many clients, and others, seem to think that a PD is a PD is a PD as if the only thing separating us from each other is our location. Thorough research will show we have different styles, different tastes, different approaches an as such we offer a very different experience...which will suit very different clients. "If no sexual offence is being committed it seems very odd indeed that there should be an offence for having an image of something which was not an offence," Lord Wallace of Tankerness | ||
| 15 Sep 09, 11:59 AM Balone 3 yrs |
I said nothing about being more or less professional. By 'intimacy' I'm assuming emotional intimacy is meant. Therefore, I'd think that emotional dependence follows intimacy quite closely. It is a slightly risky profession for those who don't want their clients getting emotionally attached. On one woman's web-site I read in the FAQs section: 'No, I will not become your girlfriend'. This makes it quite clear that her clients have, in the past, perhaps misunderstood 'intimacy' and that she wants to keep certain boundaries. Pais porrada | ||
| 15 Sep 09, 1:14 PM Ms_Valentine UK, 9 yrs |
Yes, I was referring to emotional intimacy but also a degree of physical intimacy too. Emotional dependence only follows emotional intimacy in those few misguided subs who do not listen to what we PDs write overtly or covertly on our sites to make sure a sub knows he is getting a relationship, but not an exclusive one and not a girlfriend or wife. You can accept emotional attachment, that is not a problem, most subs do form a very emotional attachment to their Dommes. I am very happy with that. I do not encourage or tolerate those who allow their emotions to get the better of them and become clingy, difficult, demanding and basically break all the rules of common sense and respectful behaviour. Don't think that Dommes don't become very fond of their subs too. That is quite possible without them rushing off to the altar or wanting to go to bed with them. I am in mourning over a sub I knew since 2001 who has just died relatively young. I feel really very upset. He was a friend and a fantastic masochistic sub who was a joy to play with. I can't believe I will never see him again. So, through intimacy you can form healthy emotional attachments which are mutually enjoyed by both sub and Domme. It does not have to lead to romance and so on. That is very much the exception and even if it does happen, well, then you are happily taken ( like me) and it won't happen again. 24/7 subs and slaves can and do live similar lives, it is only the concept of 'ownership' which separates them. | ||
| 15 Sep 09, 1:24 PM Balone 3 yrs |
This is exactly why I mentioned courage (very sorry to hear about your sub). Obviously it's not quite the average profession and even the most professional of dommes (HOWEVER that may be measured) are opening themselves to emotional attachment. Pais porrada | ||
| 15 Sep 09, 1:29 PM Mistress_Susannah UK(SE), 7 yrs £ |
Well yes, we are. It's part of the job that I both love and at the same time makes things very difficult. We do achieve very intimate relations - mainly psychologically.... but also physically (I'm talking specifically about hugs, touch, etc here). The emotional attachments can be quite mind blowing for both parties. I think you have to be the type of person that can deal with that level of commitment. I wasn't sure I was... and if it ever got too much for me, I promised myself I would give it all up. Fortunately, that level of intimacy with many people works really well for me. It's really wonderful having many of those sorts of relationships in my life. Some may find that very brave.... and yes, it does eat into your personal life. But for me, it works very well. Fabulous previous post from Ms Valentine, as always, btw.
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